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If the Secret's So Great...

Where's my Ferrari? 5 keys for getting OFF the hidden hamster wheel so you can start making a great living doing what you love

Did you know...? Most people who get involved in personal development NEVER get even a FRACTION of the results they desire! Why is this? The majority of people spend their lives running on a “hidden hamster wheel” that keeps them chasing after dreams, goals & solutions that NEVER arrive. The hidden hamster wheel is a false belief – a belief that gets taught to us as children & gets reinforced throughout our lives, without our even realising it! Hundreds of years ago, the belief that the earth was flat stopped people exploring new lands for fear of falling off the edge. In the same way the “hidden hamster wheel” stops most people from: •

Making a great living doing work they love

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Creating the lifestyle & experiences they desire

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Creating fulfilling relationships with people who matter to them

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Having good feelings, & a vibrant experience of living

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Generating wealth, abundance & financial freedom

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Achieving their most inspiring goals & dreams

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Living a life that's rich with meaning, purpose & contribution

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The hidden hamster wheel is a trap – a trap that's probably been sprung on you without you even realising it, which raises a CRUCIAL QUESTION... QUESTION:

If you're caught in a trap, what's the one thing you HAVE TO DO before you can escape?

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You have to REALISE that you've been caught in a trap.

Until you realise you've been caught in a trap, you're VERY unlikely to get out of it. But once you know about the trap, & you can see how it works, then escape can be pretty straightforward. Especially if other people have escaped from the same trap, & can show you how YOU CAN DO IT TOO! Here are five MASTER KEYS to help you escape from the stress, struggle & frustration of the hidden hamster wheel & start creating a life you really love.

MASTER KEY NUMBER 1:

Understand the trap you've been caught in Until you understand the trap you've been caught in, it's virtually IMPOSSIBLE to free yourself from it. Here's how it works: The “self-improvement & success” industry shares some uncomfortable similarities with the diet industry: the promised results are often slow to materialise (if ever) and can be very shortlived (& even make the problem WORSE!) This is due to a trick of the mind, the “deferred happiness” factor embodied by the belief “I’ll be happy [secure / fulfilled / peaceful / successful etc] when I get X / Y / Z”. Here are some common examples:

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I’ll feel secure when I save up enough money / pay off my mortgage / get the job

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I’ll feel good about myself when I lose the weight / quit smoking / get out of debt

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I’ll be OK when I change my thinking / practice my affirmations / meditate

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I'll be happy when I'm doing work I love / find a partner / get rich

While “I’ll be happy when…” seems like common sense, a quick look at the miserable lives of countless celebrities, Olympic gold-medalists & lottery winners will demonstrate that it’s just not true. It’s an illusion that keeps people chasing after a carrot they never quite reach. Material success is fine - just don't mortgage your peace of mind, wellbeing & inner security to get it! There's nothing wrong with material success – it's perfectly fine, as long as you build it on your sense of inner wellbeing & security instead of “mortgaging your wellbeing” with deferred happiness. When I first introduce people to the idea of the Hidden Hamster Wheel, they often say something like “But if I didn’t have that belief, I wouldn’t be motivated to do anything!” That’s just not true. You weren’t born believing this, and you were motivated to learn to walk & to talk. You were motivated to use your hands, & to play & to explore. You were motivated to love & connect with other people. We are all born with a natural sense of wonder & curiousity, a desire to explore the world around us & to create whatever we feel passionate about. When they say “But if I didn’t have that, I wouldn’t be motivated to do anything!”, here’s what they really mean: If I didn’t believe “I’ll be happy when…”, then I wouldn’t be motivated to do all the crap I don’t want to do but have been HYPNOTISED into thinking I NEED to ©2010 Jamie Smart If The Secret’s So Great, Where's My Ferrari

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do in order to be happy / secure / fulfilled / OK. Action step: What are some of the more obvious ways you’ve been deferring happiness until now? What are your “I'll be happy when...” goals? Please be clear – there's nothing wrong with wanting the things you want. That's fine! But if you think you NEED them in order to be happy, it does two, really damaging things: 1. It separates you from the natural source of peace, wellbeing & security that's already RIGHT THERE INSIDE YOU. 2. It dulls your awareness of what you REALLY want, your authentic desires. As you're about to discover, your authentic desires are essential elements when it comes to doing what you love (& creating an amazing life in the process).

MASTER KEY NUMBER 2:

Replace your toxic goals with authentic desires Most people's goals are TOXIC. Here are some examples of toxic goals: 1. A goal that you pursue because you think you should 2. A goal that you pursue because you're doing an “I'll be happy when...” A goal that you settle for because you think it's unrealistic to go for what you really want 3. A goal you want to achieve so other people will approve of or validate you

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And what's the opposite of a toxic goal? An AUTHENTIC DESIRE. When you were first born, you didn’t know you had arms & legs. You were happy, joyful & full of wonder (except when you weren’t). One day you realised you had arms & legs, & you started on a learning curve. As far as I can tell, you were still just as happy, joyful & full of wonder as you learned to use your arms & legs. •

You didn't learn to walk & talk because you thought you should.

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You didn’t need to defer your happiness to motivate yourself to walk & talk.

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You didn't settle for crawling & gurgling.

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You didn't learn to walk & talk in order to get someone's approval.

You did it because you WANTED to. And why did you want to? I’m guessing it was because you liked the idea! It was an authentic desire. Stop for a moment, & think of all the things you’ve done, just because you liked the idea… We all have natural desire & motivation placed within our hearts, but it can sometimes be temporarily obscured by the list of things we think we “should” be doing, or need to force ourselves to do. But here’s the thing: if you’re doing something because you think you should (usually obeying someone else’s rules) or because you think you need to in order to be happy / fulfilled / secure / OK, you’re in danger of deferring happiness.

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Action step: Here's the GOOD news: Your desires are your guide to what’s possible for you. You really CAN have what you want. So here are some questions to help you get clear on what that is: •

What do you want? What would you love to create?

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How will you know you’ve got it? What will you see, hear & feel?

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What would you want if you knew you couldn’t fail?

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What would you want if you knew it was OK to fail?

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What would you want if you were guaranteed to get it?

Here's one of my favourites, the miracle question. It's great if you've been telling yourself that you don't know what you want... •

If there were a miracle tonight, & when you woke up tomorrow, everything was exactly as you want it to be, how would you know a miracle had occurred? What would you see, what would you hear, what would you feel, what would you believe, what would you experience that would let you know a miracle had taken place?

Take some time to dream, to imagine how you'd love things to be. How would you love to spend your time? Where would you like to spend it, & with whom? Here's one more question to help you create your happy, successful life: •

What would you do if you knew you were going to be happy, secure, successful & loved, no matter whether you got it or not?

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MASTER KEY NUMBER 3:

Evolve your peer group You become like who you hang around with. Period. Peer group is one of the most powerful factors affecting everything, including: •

Your lifestyle

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Your mood & attitude

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Your health & fitness

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Your financial situation

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Your relationships

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Your goals & achievements

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Your developing skills & competencies

As my friend Dan Bradbury says, “Surround yourself with sad, lonely, fat, broke people, and you'll wind up sad, lonely, fat and broke! Surround yourself with happy, fun, fit and wealthy people, and you'll be happy, fun, fit and wealthy!” There are three reasons why it's like this: 1. Unconscious Modelling – Human beings have the amazing ability to unconsciously adopt the attitudes, beliefs & behaviours of the people around them. This is a big part of how you learned to walk & talk, & it still plays a big part in your life. 2. Approval & Acceptance – In days gone by, the people we spent our time with represented our safety & security – being cut off from the tribe meant certain death. All of us have a desire to be approved & accepted by those around us – to conform & fit in (no matter how non-conformist we might think of ourselves as). ©2010 Jamie Smart If The Secret’s So Great, Where's My Ferrari

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3. Social Proof – We look at the people around us to find out what's considered appropriate, acceptable & normal in our neighbourhood. Without even thinking about it, we often allow others to set OUR standards for us. Action step: Even if you do nothing else, take action to spend time with people who are either ON THE PATH to living the kind of life you want, or already living it.

MASTER KEY NUMBER 4:

Take inspired action People who create BIG results are masters of taking action, but what do I mean by INSPIRED action? Inspired action is action that's aligned with your authentic desire - what you truly want to create. As Joseph Campbell famously said: “Follow your bliss, & don't be afraid, & the universe will open doors where there were only walls” - Joseph Campbell Your authentic desire gives you clues to your life's purpose, & is an excellent compass for living a happy, successful life. People who make a great living doing what they love are inevitably people who take inspired action. Here are a few reasons why... When you take action, you affect your world If you are thinking about something but not taking action, you can imagine what you THINK the results will be, but it's only when you actually do something that you get a response from reality. That response from reality gives you valuable information about the action you've taken - information you can use to decide what to do next. ©2010 Jamie Smart If The Secret’s So Great, Where's My Ferrari

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When you take action, you activate your unconscious resources The more committed you are in taking action, the more your unconscious resources get activated. For instance, when you decide you're going to do whatever it takes to accomplish something, then take action, you'll be amazed at the amazing results that start showing up (in my experience, this can include bizarre & incredibly valuable coincidences.) When you take action, you learn When you take action, your unconscious mind learns automatically from the experiences you're engaged in. People who get out there & try things out develop a high level of skill far more quickly than the people who try & do everything as a theoretical exercise. Experience is a great teacher. Action gives birth to experience. If you want to learn REALLY fast, take inspired action. When you take action, you send yourself messages Here are just a few of the messages you send yourself when you take inspired action: •

"You're willing to try new things"

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"You're developing greater confidence”

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"You're OK with taking managed risks"

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"Developing new skills is more important than playing it safe"

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"You deserve good things"

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“You can have what you want, your authentic desires”

When you take inspired action, you extend your comfort zone This is another important one. As human beings, we're designed to value familiarity, at least to some degree. This is truly valuable - our survival depends on our ability to respond appropriately to situations that are new to our experience. When you take action & move with awareness into a new situation, you continue extending your comfort zone. This opens up your domain of possible experiences more & more every time you do it.

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Of course, times will come when you know what the right thing to do is, but you feel anxious or afraid, but that's OK. Use COURAGE & take inspired action. All the courage you use will be instantly transformed into confidence. Action step: Make a list of some of the things you know are the right thing to do, but you've been hesitating about. Use courage, take action & watch with amazement as your confidence grows by leaps & bounds!

MASTER KEY NUMBER 5:

Make freedom your number 1 priority Once you realise you've been caught in the “hidden hamster wheel” trap, & discovered how it works, the next step is simple. Make FREEDOM your number 1 priority. Freedom comes in a number of flavours: 1. Freedom from the “hidden hamster wheel” trap This trap is the cause of all kinds of struggle, frustration & disappointment. The sooner you become free of it, the more quickly you'll start creating the results you really want, with a HUGE reduction in worry & stress, which leads to... 2. Emotional freedom Worry, anxiety & unhealthy stress are ALL the result of thinking patterns, & a lack of understanding of your psychological immune system. As you develop your understanding of the nature of thought, you'll begin to experience more PEACE OF MIND, wellbeing & an inner sense of security that can't be knocked by external events, which brings us to...

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3. Financial freedom Many people say they can't do what they love because they need to do an uninspiring job to pay the bills. When I ask what would happen if they didn't, they typically say one of two things: 1) I'd starve 2) I'd end up on the streets This is just plain untrue! While there are sadly many homeless people living on the streets, they're typically suffering from mental illness, running away from horrendous family lives or trapped in the cycle of addiction. They are RARELY people who left a job to do work they love, took a wrong turn & ended up living in a cardboard box. The first step towards financial freedom is working for yourself. Step two is developing passive income streams which gives you... 4. Time freedom When you can make money without selling your time, you have time freedom, & can spend your time as you please. Of course, the process may require a greater degree of... 5. Mental freedom As you get more in tune with your psychological immune system, you're able to let go of unhelpful beliefs & get more deeply in tune with your innate wisdom. This allows you to take inspired action to a whole new level as you discover that who you really are (unlimited & powerful beyond measure) is capable of a lot more than who you thought you were. This gives you more & more space to enjoy...

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6. Social freedom Social freedom is about embracing your authenticity, being true to yourself, & feeling comfortable in your own skin. It's about owning your power & showing up fully in the world, & it's the source of the kind of genuine charisma that can't be faked. Action step: On a scale of 1-10, where one is “No freedom” & 10 is “Total freedom”, rate where you are currently in relation to these six freedoms, & where you'd like to be.

Type of Freedom

Current Level

Desired Level

Free from the HHW trap Emotional freedom Financial freedom Time freedom Mental freedom Social freedom If your want to increase your level of freedom in any of these areas, the answer is simple: Make FREEDOM your number 1 priority. Commit to it, then take inspired action. For lots of useful information about HOW to do it, visit the blog at: http://secretferrari.wordpress.com/ To your enlightened success! Jamie

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About Your Author Jamie Smart is one of the world's finest Neuro-Linguistic Programming trainers, and CEO of Salad. Salad is a leading source of products for developing your NLP skills & creating an amazing life you love. Jamie is passionate about helping people discover that they're capable of more than they think they are, because they ARE more than they think they are. His mission in life is to create a tribe of happy, organically successful people living authentic, fulfilling lives, making a great living doing what they love.

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