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Supercharging Your Ejaculatory Control

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"Well firstly I would like to say I am seeing a massive improvement already. I cannot believe how quick things have started to change. I always thought this was a problem I am going to be stuck with. I feel a lot more confident now :-) I felt like I was in control all the way from start to end, I have never lasted that long! -- Wayne L., UK

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Supercharging Your Ejaculatory Control - Secrets To Enjoying Sex That Lasts Lloyd Lester, Author, EjaculationByCommand.com

P icture this… You were anticipating a night of great sex; you have planned everything you wanted to do, right down to the minute details. You set up the perfect lighting to create a sensual mood for her. But just 30 seconds into your "perfect lovemaking", everything was over. Premature ejaculation had beaten you to it again. 7 You got up quickly to take a shower, when in fact that was just an excuse to hide your embarrassment. You promised you would do better next time. But it just never happens.

About 20-40% of men around the world suffer from premature ejaculation

Sounds like what is happening to your sex life right now? Well, if you are like 40 percent of guys reading this, it probably is. Let’s face it. There is probably nothing in the world that gives a man greater pleasure than knowing he has the ability to satisfy any woman in bed. But for many guys, sex is often a short-lived affair (even an embarrassing one)

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that ends as soon as the heart starts pounding and the adrenalin gets rushing. So what is it that you can do to cope with early ejaculation? Are you destined to come up short every time you have sex? Not at all! Unlike most male sexual dysfunctions, premature ejaculation can often be rectified without the need for long term medication or treatment.

Anyone can learn to re-program his mental and physical abilities to last longer during sex

But before we move on to examine the various alternatives and what makes a good cure for PE, it is important to properly understand what premature ejaculation really is - and if you are really suffering from it. How Soon Is Too Soon? Here’s A "Litmus Test" You could be a "premature ejaculator" if: 1. You routinely come to an orgasm within 2 minutes of intercourse; 2. You are unable to sexually fulfil your female partner more than 50% of the time; or 3. Your inability to last long enough is causing distress to you or your partner

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But really, you do not need to feel embarrassed or humiliated if you are suffering from premature ejaculation. This is not a form of illness or disease, and the fact that you are among 20 to 40 percent of all men who have to deal with this issue means that you are NOT alone. And the sooner you recognize that you need help, the sooner you will resolve this problem and enjoy the kind of long lasting sex that you know you deserve. Are You At Risk? There are some men who are at higher risks of developing premature ejaculation. These include men who are suffering from some form of erectile dysfunction. Men who have problems with erection often subconsciously hurry through sexual intercourse for fear of losing their erections. One of the biggest contributors to early ejaculation is

Stress and performance anxiety are among the leading causes of premature ejaculation…

stress or emotional strain. So guys who are often emotionally stressed out are also at a higher risk of ejaculating early during sex. This is just nature's way of releasing tension that has been pent up. In Short, These Are 3 Things You Should Avoid… 1. The Effects of Stress Stress is your worst enemy, as far as your premature ejaculation goes. Whether it is related to your job or your Copyright © EjaculationByCommand.com

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performance in bed, stress can wreck havoc on your body. It leads to an increase in your blood pressure, a surge of adrenaline and a peaking of your sexual pleasure before you have had a chance to enjoy it fully. So what do you do about it? Try to make a conscious effort to relax whenever you feel yourself go tense and stressed out. Take deep, thoughtful breaths and watch that tension ebb away. 2. Getting Emotionally-Charged Being angry or emotionally-charged before or during sex can also cause you to lose ejaculatory control in just a few moments. This can happen in 2 ways. First of all, it releases a surge of negative feelings within you. More importantly, it cuts out the communication that is so vital when you are making love. Think about it. You are not looking into her eyes - they are glowering at you in all probability - and that is NEVER good for your arousal control. What's more, the surge of blood will make you lose control of your ejaculation reflexes very quickly, sometimes within seconds! 3. Using The Wrong Masturbation Techniques Strange as it sounds, the right masturbation technique can help you last longer. But the wrong way of selfstimulation can cause more harm than good. What are we Copyright © EjaculationByCommand.com

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talking about? If you have been used to a quick fix when you are pleasing yourself, it will be reflected in bed. The logic is simple. Your body becomes accustomed to a quick orgasm (and a weak one) when you masturbate quickly. The other problem is when you masturbate too frequently. If you are getting off by yourself three times a day, and getting off fast, you are spoiling your chances when the real thing hits in bed. Do You Need To See A Doctor? If your lack of sexual endurance is causing great distress to you and your partner, it is recommended that you seek medical assistance. A doctor would be able to advice on the appropriate treatment to help you cope with the problem. In some cases, the doctor many even suggest that you are not even experiencing early ejaculation, especially if it occurs only occasionally. Likewise, if you can satisfy your partner even if you do not last more than 2 to 4 minutes during intercourse, there is no real cause for concern. So What Is Considered A Good PE Treatment? When evaluating the treatment options best suited for you, I suggest you take these 2 criteria into consideration:

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1. The treatment provides a PERMANENT cure instead of just a short-term solution 2. The treatment should be natural and relies on your body's natural responses to improve your sexual stamina. So which PE treatments are recommended? Let's take a look below. Common Premature Ejaculation Treatments 1. Anti-depressants drugs - Most of these drugs and medications belong to the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRIs) family of drugs. Are they worth your time? Well, these drugs do work, but they come with unintended consequences - such as the loss of libido or even difficulty in ejaculating. You have to consume these on a daily basis. Plus they don't work if you take them just before sex. Before taking on these drugs, it is best that you consult a doctor about the potential side effects and if they are the best option for you. 2. Numbing applicators such as creams, lotions and sprays - These are popular solutions among men suffering from PE. They do work, but these are more of temporary quick fixes that do not

The vast majority of commercial solutions will NOT permanently cure premature ejaculation…

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moment's notice, but solutions such as desensitizing creams have the potential to dull or lower the sensations you and your partner will experience during sex. Also, how would you like to run off to the bathroom to apply the spray each time you want to have sex? That is embarrassing, isn't it? Well, and it certainly does not look the least bit manly that you have to depend on a bottle of 'foreign assistance' to help you last longer in the sack! 3. Naturally "re-wire" your ejaculatory response This is a permanent treatment and addresses the root causes of your premature ejaculation. It encompasses a natural, time-tested training routine that conditions your body to withstand mental and physical stimulation and prolong your ejaculation. You may not see results overnight, but

Because premature ejaculation is largely a conditioned response, you can permanently reverse this behavior with the right strategy…

given time, you will definitely experience permanent effects of lasting longer in bed. Let’s take a look at one of the best natural conditioning techniques to improve your ejaculatory control and last longer in bed. Managing Your Arousal Control Arousal is basically the sensations you go through when you become sexually stimulated. To be able to last longer during sex, you have to first understand the four stages of male sexual arousal. By paying close attention to how Copyright © EjaculationByCommand.com

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your body responds and reacts throughout these four stages, you will be in a better position to control how long each stage lasts and enjoy sex to the fullest. Briefly, stage one is when your penis starts to get an erection; stage two takes place when the arousal begins to increase, your erection becomes full but you are still in control. Stage three occurs when the arousal intensifies, your penis glans expands, become more sensitive and you are right on the edge of ejaculation. This culminates into stage four when your nervous system tips over, causing your pelvic muscles to contract and releasing ejaculation. To last longer in bed, you basically need to stretch out the four stages for as long as possible. "Premature ejaculators" can go from stage one to four within a minute or less while those with superior sexual endurance can extend their lovemaking to an hour or more. Among the four stages of arousal, stage two holds the key. This means you have to strive to remain in stage two for as long as you can. Once you hit stage three, there is practically no turning back - even if her granny suddenly trots into the room!

Becoming aware of your own sexual arousal is the first key step towards beating premature ejaculation…

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1. "Power Of Pleasing" The real purpose of sex should be in helping your partner enjoy the moment as much as you are (if not more!). One of the reasons why men are not lasting long enough is due to the fear or anxiety of not being able to sexually fulfil her. If this sounds like you, there is an easy way out.

Many guys go thrusting right out of the gate and let their arousal escalate without control - a surefire way to climax quickly…

Instead of focusing on using your male anatomy to please her, why not use the "whole-body" experience instead? A woman does not need sexual intercourse to be erotically fulfilled, although that would be the icing on the cake. A woman needs emotional connection and above all, attention to her body on the whole - and not just her genitals. So what does this mean for you? Simple! Tease her with words, and pay attention to the sensuous areas and hot buttons all over her body. This will get her all warmed up before the actual deed, and more importantly, help extend your time in bed too.

Women are “emotional beings” - they are biologically wired differently from men. To get her in the mood, you need to focus on HER first…

2. "Power Of Positioning" The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to climax, think about what makes you feel good. This will help "debug" your quick orgasm reflexes. For many guys, the positioning of the hips plays a huge role in defining how long you can last. Thrusting with vigorous hip movements can push you to the verge of Copyright © EjaculationByCommand.com

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climax very easily, especially if you engage in the conventional missionary position. Also, pay attention to the positioning of your partner's legs during penetration. If her legs are closed tightly, more pressure and stimulation will be applied to your penis glans and if you aren't trained properly, you will likely last no more than a couple of quick minutes (or

Many sex positions are known to cause quick ejaculation the missionary position is one such “culprit”

even seconds). Try spreading her legs apart during intercourse, thrust more deeply and press your pelvic area against her genitals. You will last longer and she will derive more pleasure at the same time! 3. "Power Of Plateau-ing" There are four phases to a man's sexual arousal. In the "excitement" phase, you are just getting erect and still very much in control of your arousal. At the "plateau" phase, you are fully erect, very aroused, but still in

The “plateau” stage holds the key to lasting as long as you desire…

control. At "orgasm" phase, your arousal builds up intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into ejaculation. The last phase is the "resolution" stage where your breathing returns to normal and your erection subsides. The key to controlling your ejaculation is to extend the "plateau" stage. This means you need to maintain your levels of arousal without allowing yourself to boil over to a climax. So how do you prolong the "plateau" phase?

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First, maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow your thrusts to slowly gain momentum and when you sense you are fairly close to a climax, slow down, and if need be, withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the arousal tapers off. Communicate with your partner why you are doing this. Her support with help you build greater confidence in your performance. Second, try alternating between deep and shallow thrusting. Shallow penetration will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings within the first 2 inches of a woman's vagina. Deep thrusting will present less friction and stimulation on your penis glans and help you rock on much longer! The Bottom Line Is This... Premature ejaculation need not become a lifelong problem- unless you choose to let it become one. By learning and practicing the proper tips, techniques and strategies, you can turn around a lifetime of embarrassment and begin to enjoy incredible sex and finally give your woman the sexual pleasure that she deserves. Don't be too hard on yourself when things don't go right at first. Developing ejaculatory control may not be the

Premature ejaculation need not be a permanent fixture in your life… it CAN be cured.

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Don’t Be Embarrassed In Bed… Be Confident! This report is just a small preview of my full course “Ejaculation By Command”

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A huge mistake guys make right before they have sex that actually kills their sexual stamina. (I'm amazed how many men do this... and if you don't know what it is, there is a good chance you're making this mistake now) How to prevent yourself from ejaculating when you are "on the edge"... and do so without having to "stop the action" (this one tip can literally save your relationship) An easy way to TRIPLE the intensity of her orgasms without requiring any extra "stamina" from you A proven penetration technique that will easily add minutes to your lovemaking... and you can easily do 100 thrusts of this without blowing early (It's taken me a long time, but I've finally figured out a thrusting sequence that NO woman can resist.) Four different sex positions that will give you superior endurance and INSTANTLY get a woman aroused to the point where she's filled with pleasure A simple but powerful breathing technique that instantly supercharges your ejaculatory control (and it takes only 5 seconds to do) How to lower a woman's threshold for orgasm so that she ALWAYS comes before you The single most powerful "sex tip" I've EVER discovered (This one is truly POTENT... and will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy that you might be mentally unprepared for... so save it for the women you really love) And much, much more! Don’t settle for lousy sex. Get your copy of Ejaculation By Command and start enjoying the kind of sex you once only dreamed about!

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DISCLAIMER The contents in this book are for educational purposes only. This book is not intended to serve as a medical treatment, psychological counseling, psychotherapy, or any other services best performed by a health professional. No part of this book should be used as a means of self-treatment or as a viable substitute for medical evaluation by a doctor. If you suspect you have a condition requiring such treatment, the author encourages you to seek professional help before engaging in the practices included. While every attempt has been made to verify the information provided in this book, neither the author nor his affiliates/partners assume any responsibility for errors, inaccuracies or omissions.

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ATTENTION: All men who wish to give their lovers exquisite, mind-blowing orgasms - whenever you want... This page could change your life forever...

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Introduction… In my field, one of the most common questions I am asked revolves around the issue of premature ejaculation and how to last longer in bed. Men want to know how they can improve their sexual stamina. Women want to know how their partners can last long enough to give them an orgasm. Couples want to know how they can enjoy longer-lasting sex. It is every man's desire to be the seductive and powerful lover - one who has the innate ability to last as long he wants and bring his woman to the pinnacle of sexual pleasure. Sadly, premature ejaculation often rears its ugly head and makes potentially heart-thumping sex fizzle out in a flash. Sounds like what is happening to you most of the time?

About 20-40% of men around the world suffer from premature ejaculation

Well, you are NOT alone. Between 20 to 40 percent of men have the unfortunate distinction of being a "minute man", one who lasts no more than a couple of quick minutes (or even seconds) before making an early exit. It is thus not surprising that fixing premature ejaculation is such as popular topic. Any man who constantly blows his load early during sex will know the pain, embarrassment and frustration that come with the inability to last the distance.

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No man is born with the inherent ability to endure even 15 minutes of penetrative sex. By the stroke of nature, we are all genetically programmed to ejaculate as soon as possible so that we continue to reproduce in numbers. But can you actually "re-program" yourself to last longer and enjoy better sex? You can! Although no man is naturally born with superior control over his ejaculation - just like no one is born to read and write - you can learn how to overcome your quick ejaculation reflexes until you gain total control over it. Ejaculation By Command is all about re-wiring your

Anyone can learn to re-program his mental and physical abilities to last longer during sex

mental and physical abilities to totally eradicate premature ejaculation and enjoy sex that lasts. No pills, creams, lotions, portions or gadgets are needed. It won't happen overnight, but with the tips, techniques and strategies laid out in this book, you hold the power to supercharge your ejaculatory control and gain the confidence to last much longer during sex. If there is one thing that makes this book stand out from the veritable avalanche of resources on premature ejaculation, it is the two-pronged approach of helping the average man improve his sexual endurance, AND fulfilling a woman’s deepest sexual desires at the same time.

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And this… my friend… can only bear great news for your partner and your sex life to boot! So what does Ejaculation By Command offer you? This book is divided into two parts. Here’s a sneak peak of the sections ahead of you. Part 1: Secrets Of Sexual Stamina Mastery Fundamentals. Here you’ll discover the reasons why sex is often a short-lived, embarrassing affair for most men… and the myths, misconceptions and lies that unfortunately cloud the issue and make it much harder for men to break free from premature ejaculation and carve out a new, more confident and long lasting sexual performance. Part 2: Techniques Of The Masters This is where the rubber hits the road. Here I’ll give you all the tools and knowledge you need to begin re-training and re-wiring your mind and body so that you can revel in longer lasting sex, and at the same time, give your partner an erotic experience she never thought was possible. Exclusive Bonus: Emergency Tactics To Last Longer The strategies in the main Ejaculation By Command program will require a little time and effort on your part

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to permanently nip premature ejaculation in the bud. But what if you need some instant “firepower” tonight? In a separate exclusive bonus report, I reveal 15 triedand-tested tactics that you can use right away to put up a respectable performance in bed and send her into a sexual frenzy! The insights, tools and techniques in Ejaculation By Command have been rigorously tried, tested and proven effective not only by me, but by thousands of other men who are now enjoying lovemaking that lasts, and relationships that stay ROCK-SOLID - pardon the pun :-) So mark the date and time - years from now, you will remember this as the day “WHEN IT ALL BEGAN…” And the sooner you get started, the sooner you will reach the level of sexual confidence and performance that you desire! With all my hopes for your success, Lloyd Lester

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Table of Contents Part 1: Secrets of Sexual Stamina Mastery Chapter 1: The Truths about Premature Ejaculation……………………..12 -

Understanding Premature Ejaculation - How Soon Is Too Soon? Causes of Premature Ejaculation Does It Really Matter? Can Premature Ejaculation Be Cured? Do You Need Medical Attention? Realistic Expectations Gender Perceptions Of Premature Ejaculation

Chapter 2: Myths, Misconceptions (And Big Fat Lies)……………………30 -

Premature Ejaculation Stems From Sexual Inexperience Premature Ejaculation Means There Is Something Physically Wrong With You Desensitizers Are A Great Way To Beat Premature Ejaculation Mind Distraction Tricks Will Boost Your Stamina Porn Actors Are Born With Super Endurance

Chapter 3: Understanding Male Sexuality…………………………………….34 -

The Phases Of Male Sexual Response Getting To Know Thyself The Two Stages Of Cumming More On “The Point Of No Return” o Exercise: Understanding Your Arousal Patterns

Part 2: Techniques of the Masters Chapter 4: Empower The Mind…………………………………………………..48 -

Instituting The Right Mental Input Managing Mental Arousal “The Breath of Sex” o Exercise: Preparatory Breathing o Exercise: In-Sex Breathing o Exercise: Synchronized Breathing 8

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o Exercise: Triangular Breathing Relaxation Of The Mind o Exercise: Triggering A Relaxation Response The Straight Scoop On Mind Distraction Tactics The Art Of Emotional Connection

Chapter 5: Enable The Body……………………………………………………….74 -

Mastering Your PC Muscles o Exercise: PC Flex o Exercise: PC Clench o Exercise: PC Muscle Relaxation o Exercise: Fighting Off An Imminent Climax

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The Sensuous Art Of Self-Gratification o Exercise: Pleasure Acclimatizing o Exercise: Pushing Your Limits (I) o Exercise: Pushing Your Limits (II)

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The Erotic Art Of Partner Stimulation o Exercise: "Live Action" Stimulation o Exercise: "The Surreptitious Female Rider" o Exercise: "Spooning Extravaganza" o Exercise: "Male Supremacy"

Chapter 6: Enrich Your Diet……………………………………………………….96 -

You Are What You Eat! o Life Is Sweet o Fruity Temptation o The Serial Booster - Not Just Kid’s Stuff o Go Green For Endurance o Berry Magic o Sirloin Therapy For The Loins o Vitamin Bank o Cool Sensuous Delights o Drinkers...Beware!

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The Power of Serotonin

Chapter 7: Enhance Your Skills…………………………………………………104 -

Position Mastery Inducing The Female Orgasm Foreplay & Female Sexuality Oral Titillation 9

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It’s NOT Just About Penetration The Best Sex Tip For Men (It’s NOT What You Think)

Chapter 8: Embrace The Paradigm Shift…………………………………….125 -

Adopting The Right Mindset & Attitude The Mistake Of Going It Alone If All Else Fails, Try Again!

Chapter 9: Summing It All Up……………………………………………………130

Recommended Resources

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Pa rt 1 Secrets Of Sexual Stamina Mastery This is where your journey begins. Before we head on to the actual techniques and strategies for lasting longer in bed, we need to have a clear understanding of some of the fundamental concepts relating to premature ejaculation. This section will lay the groundwork that will answer some of the most common questions that many guys have about sexual endurance, as well as debunk some of the self-defeating beliefs that will hamper your progress. It is absolutely important that we get these sorted out first. Let’s get rolling!

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Chapter 1 The Truths About Premature Ejaculation Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions amongst men. In fact, according to estimates, as many as 20 to 40 percent of the male population regularly suffer from premature ejaculation. Not only that, many sexual health surveys, including those carried out by reputable men’s magazines, have revealed that up to 75 percent of men would like to last

As many as 7 in 10 men want to learn how to last longer in bed

longer in bed.

Understanding Premature Ejaculation: How Soon Is Too Soon? What exactly is premature ejaculation? Well, there is certainly no lack of definitions and opinions, including: 

When a man is unable to last more than 2 minutes

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When a man is not able to satisfy his partner more than 50% of the time

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When the inability to last causes distress to one or both partners

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Most experts prefer to use this last definition, which is a very sensible way to describe premature ejaculation. From this point of view, the number of minutes you last doesn’t even matter. In short, premature ejaculation means reaching an orgasm before you want to. It means climaxing before you are ready and before you or your partner is sexually fulfilled. It is as simple as that. Premature ejaculation, in most cases, is hardly classified as a form of “illness”. Instead, it is a relative condition caused by a female’s need for orgasm, and her comparative slowness in achieving one through intercourse alone. To put things in perspective, premature ejaculation is certainly far from abnormal; in fact it is perfectly natural for a guy to want to climax within 2 minutes, just as it is natural for a woman to need 15 minutes to achieve an orgasm. How long does the average man last in bed? The answer is 2 to 6 minutes. In fact, some recent studies and research have thrown up rather shocking statistics: as many as 75 percent of men regularly ejaculate within 2

The average lovemaking duration is just 2-6 minutes…

minutes upon vagina entry. And a good number of us have the misfortune of blowing our load in less than 20 seconds - sometimes even as soon

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as foreplay begins or within 3 to 4 thrusts upon penetration. Two minutes may not seem long, but think about this: most mammals last only 3 to 15 seconds, so a couple of minutes actually represent a considerable feat of selfcontrol by comparison! Now here's the rub: the vast majority of women need 10 to 15 minutes of intercourse to achieve an orgasm. So even 2 to 6 minutes is not going to cut it! BUT... losing control occasionally is completely NORMAL Premature ejaculation becomes a problem only if it occurs all the time. If you ejaculate quickly when you have sex for the first time, or if you have not had intercourse for a long while, this is completely normal. Premature ejaculation can be very embarrassing and frustrating for a man, and if not addressed or treated, can cause real emotional distress in a relationship. The good news? It is entirely possible to permanently cure

Premature ejaculation need not be a permanent fixture in your life… it CAN be cured.

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We will be looking at both strategies later in this book. But here's the simple truth you should always bear in mind… You only need to last as long as it takes for her to get an orgasm. And it does not even need to be through vaginal penetration!

A man only needs to last as long as it takes for a woman to orgasm…

You see, women are capable of reaching a climax through a variety of means. Foreplay, oral sex, and yes - even, mental seduction are known to cause orgasms in women! So as long as she receives her orgasm, the amount of time you spend penetrating her doesn’t really matter.

Causes of Premature Ejaculation Looking for shortcuts that will prevent you from ejaculating early is not the best solution. If you want a lasting cure to premature ejaculation, you have to know the underlying factors for your condition. It would be wrong to assume that all men ejaculate prematurely for the same reasons. PE can be caused by many factors, including genetics, hormones, your past sexual experiences, as well as stress and sexual performance anxiety. Also, men suffering from erection problems or erectile dysfunction are at a greater risk of developing PE, as most of them tend to hurry through intercourse for fear of losing their erection.

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That said, the vast majority of men suffer from early ejaculation due to six primary factors. 1. Genetics At the very onset, premature ejaculation is the work of nature... it's NOT your fault. Very few men are naturally blessed with the ability to last even 20 minutes during intercourse. From an evolutionary standpoint, quick ejaculation has a purpose – it ensures efficient procreation and survival of the human species. We are no different from other mammals. 2. Poor Masturbation Habits One's early sexual experiences play a contributory role in premature ejaculation later in life. Many sex therapists believe that due to "habitual conditioning", quick masturbation in the early years of a man's life - either of out of fear of getting caught or out of a desire to experience an orgasm as soon as possible - is likely to trigger rapid ejaculation during actual sex.

Stress and performance anxiety are among the leading causes of premature ejaculation…

3. Stress and Performance Anxiety Almost 90% of men who suffer from PE mentally condition themselves for failure even before they begin! No matter what they are doing in bed, their minds are already focused on how badly they think they will perform. In fact, many wonder if they will ejaculate too soon during sex.

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Like it or not, such anxieties actually increase performance stress and ironically triggers PE. Sounds like you? Well, your reaction is pretty normal. The trouble is, the human mind is the most powerful part of our bodies. It can influence how the organs in our bodies function. If your mind is sending out negative vibes to your body, guess what - your body will just follow the pattern expected of it! 4. Weak Pelvic Muscles This is the biological reason behind many cases of premature ejaculation. Your pelvic muscles help you in a number of ways, including bladder control and ejaculation. Strong and well-toned pelvic muscles can greatly boost your ejaculatory control during sex. On the other hand, weak pelvic muscles can cause erections that

By strengthening the pelvic muscles - the muscles that control urination and ejaculation one can achieve superior sexual endurance…

come and go very fast, as well as weak ejaculations that have a “dribbling effect”. A man's pelvic muscles are often termed the “fountain of youth”! These muscles can affect everything about your sex life, including how long you will last in bed and how much pleasure you can derive from the act. But guess what? The problem with weak pelvic muscles is also the easiest to solve among all the factors causing PE. There are simple exercises you can practice from home that will significantly strengthen your pelvic muscles and supercharge your sexual endurance (more on this later).

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5. Wrong Posturing If you have been experiencing premature ejaculation regularly with certain sex positions, maybe you should find out why. Truth is, some positions are deemed “too demanding”, resulting in excessive pressure exerted on your thigh and pelvic muscles (the missionary position is a big culprit!). I am not saying that you should avoid these positions altogether, but the least you should do is to be aware of those that cause you to go for an early shower -

Many sex positions are known to cause quick ejaculation the missionary position is one such “culprit”

and make an effort to switch things up before it is too late! 6. An Unhealthy Lifestyle An unhealthy lifestyle shows up in the least likely of places (or so you thought)! Too much high calorie foods and a sedentary lifestyle will sap your energy levels, hamper blood circulation and inadvertently lead to premature ejaculation. So if chips and hamburgers are your favorite buddies, and you hardly run - even for an emergency - it is time to take a reality check! This may be damaging your sex life in more ways than you can think of.

Does It Really Matter? Does it matter that most men do not last long enough? In most cases it does.

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For men, it can be downright embarrassing to fall short when it comes to their endurance in bed. It can take away the confidence of guys who are suffering from premature ejaculation. For women, nothing is worse than a sexual relationship that repeatedly fails to deliver the pleasure that she deserves. And for guys who ejaculate even before intercourse (yes, some men have it that bad), it can put a tremendous strain on the relationship especially if the women wishes to get pregnant. Here's How Premature Ejaculation Can Affect You... Not being able to last long enough can put considerable strain even in the most enduring sexual relationships. Even if your female partner says she doesn't mind, the simple truth is, she will almost certainly wonder what sex

If left untreated, premature ejaculation can wreak havoc on a sexual relationship…

would be like if you (or any other men) could last long enough to bring her to an exquisite orgasm. It is not unusual to hear of love affairs and even marriages hitting the rocks due to unsatisfactory sex lives. And I don't need to stress the impact this could have on a man's self confidence in the long run if premature ejaculation is not treated properly.

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Can Premature Ejaculation Be Cured? Premature ejaculation is a treatable sexual dysfunction but most men are either unaware of this fact or they are simply too embarrassed to even talk about it. Here is the simple truth: If you find yourself climaxing too soon, your courage to admit this problem is the crucial first step in prolonging your orgasm. For most men, premature ejaculation is a learned or conditioned response. As mentioned earlier, when we were younger, we tend to speed up the process of masturbation. This is borne out of an inherent fear of being caught flat out for our sexual indulgences. The net result? Speedy ejaculation will manifest itself during sex. Unfortunately without proper "un-conditioning", this behavior tends to persist in our respective sex lives even as we age and often bears a curse in our sexual relationships.

Because PE is largely a conditioned response, you can permanently reverse this behavior with the right strategy…

But here's the good news… The fact that PE is largely a learned or conditioned behavior also means that you can reverse this behavior with the proper treatments, strategies and techniques.

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Unlike some of our physical traits, our sexual abilities are not cast in stone. These abilities, including ejaculatory control, can be learned and practiced to perfection. There is a fallacy that adult movie actors are naturally blessed with superior sexual endurance. The truth is, most of them started out just like any of us. Their exalted sexual stamina comes from practice rather than genetics. While some guys prefer to bring their problem to a doctor or a sexual therapist, most of us are embarrassed to bring this problem out of our bedrooms. And this is where many commercial firms are quick to capitalize on one of men's most pressing needs in the bedroom - the ability to last longer. Pills, creams, sprays and even specialized condoms that claim to add minutes

The vast majority of commercial solutions will NOT permanently cure premature ejaculation…

to sexual intercourse are the rage these days. Although effective to certain degree, these are usually not long-term, permanent solutions to cure PE. If anything, an over-reliance on these "quick fixes" can do more harm than good to your sexual image. What good would it do to your self confidence if you have to unravel that pack of special condoms in front of your wife or girlfriend before every lovemaking session? I don't know about you, but it sure seems embarrassing to me…

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What About Using Drugs Or Supplements To Prolong Your Sexual Stamina? There are oral medications and supplements on the market that are used to treat premature ejaculation. These are primarily anti-depressant drugs known as SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) that have the side effect of delaying ejaculation. While these drugs help to raise the level of serotonin in your body – hormones that reduce your urge to ejaculate – prolonged usage is believed to have side effects, including erectile dysfunction, dampened sex drive and sometimes the inability to achieve an orgasm. Read the last sentence again… You want to delay ejaculation, NOT stop ejaculation altogether! Using drugs to curb PE is not always recommended due to the side effects on your body and the fact that you have to be continually on the medication. Premature ejaculation can be permanently cured in

Some drugs can help delay ejaculation, but this is NOT recommended due to the possible side effects...

almost all cases. It does take some effort. By using simple training and conditioning techniques that will be shared later in this book, you can rid the curse of finishing too soon in bed, for good!

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What Counts As A True “Cure” For Premature Ejaculation? My definition of a good “cure” is a solution that permanently prevents PE while at the same time, does NOT affect your sexual experience in any manner. Many commercially available solutions such as desensitization sprays, creams and gels - all claim to help prevent premature ejaculation. But in reality, these products only work as long as you use them. These work on the basis that they dull or desensitize the sensations in and around your genitals. Net result? Sex doesn’t feel as good as it should be! Similarly, expensive drugs and supplements may have different effects on different men, and they work ONLY as long as you continue to consume them. Mental distraction (thinking of non-sexual thoughts) is also one popular method to last longer. But I wouldn’t

The ideal cure for PE should address the problem permanently and also not negatively impact on your sexual experience…

recommend this method because like desensitizers, it robs you of the pleasure of sex. The best solution - and only true lasting cure to PE - is to adopt a holistic, natural training program that improves your body’s ability to withstand physical and mental stimulation and keep your ejaculatory reflexes at bay. In a nutshell, when it comes to selecting PE solutions and treatments, you should focus on two criteria: 23

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1. The cure should permanently reverse the underlying factors or causes of PE (rather than just providing a quick fix) 2. The cure should be natural and does not produce any adverse side effects that can potentially damage your privates or your health.

Do You Need Medical Attention? For most men, premature ejaculation is more of a psychological/mental condition than a medical one, although there are guys who are physically predisposed to ejaculate early due to genetic conditions. Unlike erectile dysfunction - which is primarily due to physiological factors - PE is often due to a man's lack of practice in controlling his orgasm. But perhaps the most significant impact caused by early ejaculation is on your self confidence. There are many men who shy away from sex simply because they are too embarrassed of ejaculating as soon as seconds into intercourse. Usually there is nothing medically or physically wrong with you. But of course, if it puts your mind at ease, seeing a doctor about your condition is a good start. Your

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doctor may also a recommended specific course of action that you can take to nip premature ejaculation in the bud.

Realistic Expectations Do you need to last ten minutes or more, so that you are no longer considered a premature ejaculator? Absolutely not! The truth is that most women are not aiming for hours of sex. Ten to fifteen minutes is usually the average amount of time needed for women to hit a sexual climax. And there are ways to bring down that "level of threshold" for women. You can prime her mind and body so that as soon as intercourse begins, she is almost ready to reach an orgasm. Sounds far-fetched? Not at all - with the proper amount of mental and physical foreplay, you can build up her sexual anticipation to the point that she is on the orgasmic edge, ready to tip over. Women are emotional creatures. As much as she likes to reach an orgasm during sex, she also relishes the way she is brought to a climax. It is not just the “end goal”, but the journey to the end goal that she really wants! So the trick really is to understand the sexual preferences of both you and your partner. If she is happy with a couple of minutes of great sex, then all is well!

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And of course, if you really want to add a few more minutes to sex, there are several commercially-available aids that can help you, such as desensitizing creams or sprays for external application (although I don’t recommend these as a long-term, viable solution). Alternatively there are condoms with specially-created numbing gels to give you a quick boost in staying power. Many men also swear by self-gratification before engaging in a sexual act. The early release of semen will ensure that you don't climax too soon during the actual deed. But of course, learning to permanently manage your early ejaculation triggers without using these temporary aids is the best way to go. You won’t go from a “minute man” to having superhuman endurance right away, but with enough practice, you can certainly last much longer than you did yesterday. Remember… patience is a virtue.

Gender Perceptions Of Premature Ejaculation In my years of working with guys suffering from premature ejaculation, as well as speaking with their female partners, there are two recurring themes I always hear.

Both men and women hold largely different perspectives about PE… and you’d be surprised at how women think!

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The man would say he was very turned on by his wife. Foreplay was great and fun. But when they started having intercourse, he would only last like 30 seconds flat. He would try using mind distraction techniques; they didn’t work. And neither did different kinds of condoms, sprays and creams. On the other hand, the typical woman would lament that her husband always ejaculated quickly during sex, leaving her to finish it off herself while he showered. She even went as far as thinking her spouse couldn’t wait to finish sex in a hurry because he didn’t want to be with her! These ARE typical issues that I hear every time. And these issues really reveal exactly how differently men and women perceive premature ejaculation! Premature ejaculation can be a really painful, embarrassing and frustrating problem for any guy. It can be really hard to figure out what to DO about it. On one hand, the guy has his hands full trying out the myriad of different products on the market - in other words, he is looking for a PHYSICAL solution… On the other hand, the woman is worried about his feelings of embarrassment. And worse, she is worried that her man is hurrying through sex because he does not enjoy being with her. In other words, she sees this as an EMOTIONAL issue.

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You see, such differing perceptions are detrimental to any sexual relationship, especially if they remain unresolved and not talked about. The man and woman would both be doing a lot better if they had swapped their perspectives and started talking about it. Communication is key here… and this is something I will go into greater details in the later part of this book. In my experience it is way harder for men to talk about PE than women - so here’s what may happen… At first the guy may get angry and become defensive... but if his partner is committed to working this out TOGETHER with him, and actually shows it through her words and actions, then he will feel a burden lifted off his shoulders. It is so much harder for you and your wife/girlfriend to just pretend that there is nothing wrong (remember the story about two people talking while an elephant stands in the corner of the room, and both of them pretending not to see the elephant?). The lack of communication makes the problem ten times worse. The simple truth is this… when couples work on improving their intimate relationship together, they BOND together. And when you accomplish results together, believe me… you will feel stronger and more connected with each other than before. Plus, working on a PE problem can be great FUN once you've overcome the initial stress of bringing it out in the 28

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open. Think about this… if your wife or girlfriend is so hot that she sends you out of control every time... well, in some ways that is a good problem to have, at least for a start!

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Chapter 2 Myths, Misconceptions (And Big Fat Lies) Being a guy frustrated by the problem of premature ejaculation is bad enough, but it’s made a lot worse by the myriad of myths, misconceptions and lies that surround this subject. These myths can cloud the issue and make it so much harder for you to overcome your endurance shortcoming and carve out a new, more confident and longer-lasting sexual performance. So let’s quickly run through what these misconceptions are and do away with them for good. We’re going to separate fact from fiction. Myth 1: Premature Ejaculation Stems From Sexual Inexperience While this may be true for young men new to sex, it is an absolute fallacy for others. There are many men who love sex, have plenty of sex, but fail to last beyond the first minute of intercourse - embarrassing but true! And then there are men who have an illustrious history of long lasting sex and then suddenly have difficulty holding

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up their ejaculation. In short, sexual experience does not figure prominently in the cause of premature ejaculation. But here's the thing… If you think your lack of sexual experience is causing you to climax too soon, this will inadvertently affect your REAL performance in bed. Performance anxiety is one of the leading "killers" of longer-lasting sex. Myth 2: Premature Ejaculation Means There Is Something Physically Wrong With You PE is a result of stimulation to the penis beyond what a man can take. But this does not mean there is something physically wrong with you or your male anatomy. Premature ejaculation is different from erectile dysfunction. If you suffer from PE, your sexual response cycle is still fully functioning. The only difference between you and the guy who can go the distance is that you go through the entire stimulation process in double quick time. What takes a guy 10 minutes to go from arousal to full orgasm

If you can last one minute in bed, with the right practice and strategy, you can last any amount of time you like…

probably takes you just 1 or 2 minutes from start to finish. In other words, your only problem lies in lasting through the cycle. It also means that if you can last one minute in bed, with the right endurance practice and conditioning, you can last any amount of time you like!

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Myth 3: Desensitizers Are A Great Way To Beat Premature Ejaculation I am sure you have heard about this before. Guys who want to last long will resort to numbing sprays, creams or ointments to kick start their sex sessions. While this is one way to last longer, I would not recommend this approach. Why? Well, as the name implies, these will "numb" or desensitize your pleasures during intercourse and reduce your enjoyment. More importantly, the basic factors for your premature ejaculation syndrome are not addressed at all. Without these "aids", you will NOT be able to last the distance. Myth 4: Mind Distraction Tricks Will Boost Your Stamina This is another fallacy that has no scientific basis. Thinking about mathematical problems; indulging in a mental game of football; imagining having sex with a big, fat, ugly mammoth.

“Mental manipulation” may work for some guys, but they essentially take away the pleasures of sex…

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a premature ejaculation. This is NOT the best solution, and hardly practical at all if you truly want to enjoy sex. Myth 5: Porn Actors Are Born With Super Endurance Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. In fact studies have shown that even the most sexually active men will experience PE once in a while. Adult movie actors are no different. Even though they have better stamina than the average man, most of them do not start

It is what you do to address the situation - not what you’re born with - that affects how long you can last in bed…

out that way. That they are able to last for what seems like an eternity is due to natural training and conditioning techniques – and I will share these with you in a moment. Remember… it is what you DO, not what you are born with, that affects how long you last in bed. Get yourself acquainted with these myths and misconceptions about premature ejaculation. That is the first important step towards banishing PE from the bedroom and watching your sex life take a turn towards greatness!

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Chapter 3 Understanding Male Sexuality Without a proper understanding of how your body responds to sexual stimulation, you will never be able to control how soon you ejaculate during sex. The first step towards controlling your ejaculation is to become fully aware of the different levels of sexual arousal. When you are able to pin point the sensations as you approach an orgasm, you will be in a better position to control your arousal levels - and consequently, your ejaculation - before it is too late.

The Phases of Male Sexual Response A man’s sexual response cycles can be differentiated through 4 distinct phases: 1. The phase of excitement 2. The plateau stage

Becoming aware of your own sexual arousal is the first key step towards beating premature ejaculation…

3. The orgasm 4. Final resolution - a return to the pre orgasmic state

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This concept was originally explained by sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson ("Masters and Johnson") in the 1950s. It is important that we take a look at these phases in greater detail.

Stage #1 - Excitement This is marked by an erection of the penis. It may be triggered by a number of factors - notably physical stimulation, sights or even erotic thoughts. The erection can come about in a matter of seconds. A smaller penis will usually experience a more dramatic change in size compared to a larger one when it is erect. The erection occurs because there is an increased flow of blood into the erectile tissues in the male anatomy. When there is an erection, other subtle changes also occur in a man’s body. This is the basic response a man will experiences as a result of sexual stimulation. Other muscle groups will contract during this time. Some men also experience changes in the breasts, although this is not common. Some may even experience a sort of reddish rash all over the body during the initial stages of arousal. This is perfectly normal and nothing really to worry about.

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A man will also experience changes in the scrotum and the testicles during this time. The skin may thicken and the whole scrotum may elevate. The cord that holds the testicles may shorten and gets pulled closer to the body. One testicle may rise faster towards the body than the other. Stage #2 - Plateau The excitement of a man usually peaks during the initial phase itself. There is little difference that takes place in the penis during the plateau phase. The only difference that occurs during this stage is that the penis head may

The “plateau” stage holds the key to lasting as long as you desire…

deepen in color and increase in diameter by up to 50 percent. The scrotum and the epididymis will also tighten in response. During this time, the breathing rate increases and so does the heart rate. The man also experiences an increase in the blood pressure levels. There is further tightening of the muscles - both voluntary and involuntary. There may be spasms along the abdomen and ribs, and even the face. The buttocks may also tighten and this may further increase a man’s arousal. During this phase, there is often a slight discharge from the penis. This is the result of the stimulation of the Cowper’s glands. This discharge is often called the precum. It is different from the semen that is ejaculated during ejaculation, but it still contains thousands of sperms all the same. So, a woman may become pregnant even if this enters her vagina. 36

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Anyone can see that there are differences in the stages of arousal, but the basic rationale is the same. It happens when there is an increase in the tensions of the different muscles and the increased blood supply to the different (sexual and non-sexual) organs. This arousal peaks when there is an orgasm. Stage #3 - Orgasm The primary indications of an orgasm are the tightening of muscles throughout the body and the ejaculation. A man also experiences a euphoric feeling, especially at the lower abdominal muscles. This feeling lasts throughout the phase of ejaculation. The spasms may last for around 4/5th of a second and subside after the initial burst. The process of ejaculation is a complex one. Fluid that contains millions of sperms is accumulated in the ampullae. These are organs that contain the testicles. When these contract, they throw out the fluid. The prostrate also contracts and sends the fluid into the urethra. A bulb-like structure present near the base of the penis will increase in size. When there are contractions in this bulb, fluid is expelled at great force. Older men will experience contractions that are weaker in general. It is also noted that the urethra will undergo minor contractions even after the ejaculation is apparently over. These are very obvious changes that take place in the penis. However, there are changes that are less obvious. There is an increase in the blood pressure and the pulse 37

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rate. There is also an increase in the sex flush. The different muscles may also respond in a different manner. For instance, a man may frown or grimace during these moments. There may also be muscular contractions in the legs and arms and both the man and his female partner may grasp each other tightly. Most men are unaware of these subtle changes in their bodies and it is common that some guys may experience muscle aches the following day. Stage #4 - Resolution One of the basic functions of an orgasm is the release of muscular tensions and blood pressure. The penis goes back to the limp stage and the testicles also descend to their normal state. The breathing and pulse rate also go down. An important part of the resolution phase relates to the refractory period. This is the time between two erections a period when a man cannot be stimulated. Young men usually have shorter refractory times - often less than half an hour. In older men, this may last at least a few hours.

The “refractory period” advantage gives men improved stamina… by going for a second round!

On average, men experience refractory periods that last for an hour. Women are more fortunate in this regard! Since most women do not ejaculate, they do not have a refractory period and may experience another orgasm within a few minutes if they receive the right stimulation. That is how they become multi orgasmic!

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Getting To Know Thyself Another approach to portray the male sexual response involves breaking down the cycles into ten specific stages, using a pleasure scale of one to ten (instead of just 4 phases). This is the approach we will use in this book as it allows you to accurately identify and isolate each stage. This is particularly useful when it comes to controlling your arousal levels. This pleasure scale is really simple and straightforward: Pleasure Scale 1

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The most important thing you can do about your sexual arousal is to learn how to monitor and measure it, using the above Pleasure Scale. Why is this important? Every man is unique. You need to learn how to read yourself so that you know exactly where you are during the throes of sexual ecstasy. When you discover where your arousal level lies and what causes the excitement, you can indulge in all the pleasures of sex while prolonging your enjoyment and that of your partner. This is absolutely vital for stopping premature ejaculation in its tracks.

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Here are the 10 distinct stages of arousal a man goes through during sex, as well as an understanding of the processes involved in each. Stage 1 - You are starting off with feelings of excitement. This is the beginning of sexual arousal although there is no erection yet. Stage 2 - You start to develop the physical signs of excitement, namely a flushed appearance and an increased heartbeat. This is usually during foreplay, for example, when you engage in kissing, touching or caressing. Stage 3 - There is some contact with your penis, and it can occur through stimulation from your partner’s hands, oral sex or during intercourse Stage 4 – Your sexual arousal and excitement continues to rise Stage 5 – You are already well into intercourse Stage 6 – You’ve moved pass the mid-point on the pleasure scale. You’re already fully aroused, with your breathing and heart rate escalating. Stage 7 - You begin to peak in your excitement. This is the beginning of the "point of no return", or PNR. This is also known as the “ejaculation inevitability”.

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Stage 8 - Your muscles start contracting, with face flushing and the whole body starting to arch in pleasure Stage 9 - This is the final point just before your pleasure peaks. Usually at this point, there is NO turning back, and there is NO way you can “will” yourself back to ground zero. Ejaculation is IMMINENT. Stage 10 – The final point where orgasm and ejaculation occur, followed by a refractory period where you temporarily go “limp” and cannot get an erection These are the 10 basic stages of a man's sexual arousal. An understanding of these different stages will come in handy when you start doing the targeted exercises in the second part of this book. With some practice, you will know exactly when you reach the different stages and how they feel like. Only when you gain a better understanding of your own arousal levels, can you start to achieve better control over

By understanding your own unique “pleasure scale”, you will gain better control over your ejaculation…

your ejaculation.

The Two Stages Of Cumming As you’ve learned earlier, there are many obvious signs that lead up to a male orgasm. For example: -

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While most men clearly enjoy the “ooh” and “aah” moments of an orgasm, what most of us don’t know is that the male orgasm consists of two separate and distinct stages. Let’s take a quick look below. Emission Stage: Also known as the “point of no return” or “ejaculation inevitability”, the emission phase is characterized by seminal fluid entering the urethra - the tube that is responsible for carrying semen and urine through your penis and out of it. The prostate gland releases the semen which builds up in the bulb of the urethra. This is akin to a gun with the bullets fully loaded and the firing mechanisms ready to trigger. Expulsion Stage: The emission gives way to expulsion. Rhythmic contractions of the PC (or pubococcygeus) muscles propel semen through the urethra and out of the penis glans. The very muscles that result in the release of semen are also the same ones that give you the great erotic pleasure during sex. Thus one of the keys to lasting longer - as you would later discover - is to tone up and strengthen the PC muscles so

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that you develop the ability to completely relax these muscles AT WILL.

More On The “Point Of No Return” The orgasm cycles of a man are different from that of a woman. Women do not experience the Point of No Return” (PNR) and the Refractory Period - two distinct phases that a man will go through during sex. The PNR, as mentioned earlier, is the point where ejaculation becomes inevitable. Even if you stop thrusting and stay clear of all forms of stimulation, you will still come. The PNR is seen as both a blessing and a curse. It gives you an impending great pleasure, but once the semen goes into the penis shaft, there is no way you can stop the climax. Her granny could walk into the room, and you'd still be primed to blow your load off. After ejaculation, you go into the Refractory Phase, where you will stay “limp” and unable to achieve an erection. Depending on various factors such as your age and overall physical well-being, this Refractory Phase can stretch anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 or 3 hours. In layman terms, your penis basically needs to take a break :-)

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Exercise: Understanding Your Arousal Patterns This is the first practical, hands-on section of this program. It is a simple, exploratory exercise centered around masturbation to help you better understand your own levels of sexual arousal. 1. Start Right: You a need a good, silent place to begin. Your bedroom should be ideal, but a locked bathroom is okay too! Sit on a chair and start to stimulate your penis. Do not rely on pornography, lubrication or your partner when doing this. 2. Feel The Difference: Once your penis is erect, shift your mind to the feelings you are experiencing. Are you breathing faster? When does your heartbeat go up? Which muscles are you clenching when the arousal peaks? These questions will help you identify the subsequent stages of your arousal. Build it up slowly, so that you can identify each stage individually. 3. Build It Up: Continue stimulation and note the different feelings you experience at each stage. For instance, what are the sensations you feel in your head, stomach or arms? Your transition between the different stages of arousal should be slow and well marked out. The point is to become very familiar with the different levels of arousal you are going through, so that you can keep yourself confined to one when you feel like it. 4. Take Your Time: It may not easy to determine the different stages right away. Take your time. Concentrate 44

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on identifying the stages initially and then the feelings you experience at each stage. This will help you control your sexual responses better. 5. Understanding Your Peak: Try and find out when your ejaculation occurs - the “point of no return”. How long does this take? Can you identify the exact feelings you get just before you come? Finding out all these points is the purpose of the whole masturbation exercise. Most men may find it difficult to identify the thin line between an “arousal plateau” and the “point of no return”. This is because the transition may take place within a fraction of a second. But with repeated practice you will begin identify the stages better. This will help you become more conscious about what gets you going and more importantly, how you can control your arousal and last longer. Once you understand how your body works, you’re in a better position to develop greater control and improve your endurance in between the sheets. There is more… So we’ve reached the end of Part One of this book. We’ve come a long way in learning about the fundamental concepts of premature ejaculation, myths and misconceptions, as well as how your sexual response cycle works.

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Part Two awaits… and this is where the excitement really begins - excuse the pun :-) Keep the lessons and concepts you’ve learned here, and I’ll see in you Part Two. This is where the rubber hits the road - you’ll learn techniques that masterful lovers use to last like a stallion in bed.

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P a rt 2 Techniques Of The Masters This is where the REAL action starts. Here I’ll give you all the tools and knowledge you need to begin re-training and re-wiring your mind and body so that you can revel in longer lasting sex, and at the same time, give your partner an erotic experience she never thought was possible. This is basically a “techniques section”, so be ready and get some target practice going!

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Chapter 4 Empower The Mind The biggest sex organ in our bodies lies NOT in between our leg, but in between our ears. Most people think that our bodies play the main role during sex, but in fact it’s our minds that control most of what happens (or doesn’t happen) when we have sex with another person. The body, after all, is controlled by the brain - our minds rule our physical selves. Take control of your mind and you can take control of your body. Nowhere is this more useful or productive than when a man suffers from premature ejaculation and wishes to solve it. Almost every guy has experienced PE, especially as a young man. Sex is very exciting, and when you get overstimulated, you simply lose it. Since you really do screw with your brain and not the delivery system between your legs, you need to train your brain not to get overly aroused.

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longer in bed. The part of your brain that is called the cortex influences your ejaculation to a large extent. So the next time you get excited when you see something erotic, you know it is your cortex that is largely at work! It naturally follows that any amount of control you can exert on this cortex can help you last longer. For instance, if thinking erotic thoughts gets you aroused, then thinking about something relaxing will always calm you. We all know that a relaxed mind causes your body to relax as well, and this can do wonders to extend your time during sex. Here are several techniques for overcoming mental barriers to sexual endurance. This will help rein in your sexual arousal and keep it in check (these are not your usual “mind distraction” tricks that many men use). Focus On Sensuality, NOT Sexuality Much of a man's inability to hold back an ejaculation stems from psychological or confidence-related issues. The very thoughts that run though your mind during sex will affect your sexual endurance. Some guys allow the sensations of intercourse to rule over their head and that is a quick and surefire way to blow early.

Many guys go thrusting right out of the gate and let their arousal escalate without control - a surefire way to climax quickly…

You must learn how to control your arousal right from the beginning. This can be achieved by focusing NOT on intercourse but on the entire sexual experience.

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This is a huge difference… To develop mental or arousal control, you need to focus on the ALL the sensations you experience and GIVE during sex, and not just focusing on how you feel in your own genitals. For example... Focus On Pleasing Her, FIRST To hold off an early climax, try to prolong foreplay. This will give you time to get relaxed and comfortable. And it’s great for women too. Many women complain about their men skipping foreplay altogether, so focusing on pleasing her before intercourse can only be a good thing.

Women are “emotional beings” - they are biologically wired differently from men. To get her in the mood, you need to focus on HER first…

You’ll see that after a few minutes, you’ll be much calmer and relaxed. Plus, your partner will be much more turned on than if you had just skipped foreplay and gone straight to penetrative sex. With the right amounts of foreplay, sex becomes much more pleasurable when you begin penetration. Release Your Past “Sexual Baggage” What you did in the past does not define what will happen next time. You see, it is very easy to panic and get anxious just before sex. You may find yourself reliving your past sexual experiences where you came early and ended the sex before it even got started.

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Here’s what you should do instead: let go of those embarrassing experiences and focus on the present. Your sexual encounters in the past DO NOT dictate what will happen the next time you have sex. YOU dictate it. Stay Away From Mental Distraction Tactics Sex is meant to be pleasurable. So don’t do what so many guys do by thinking of baseball statistics or visualizing math problems in an attempt to distract yourself from the pleasure in order to increase the time you can last in bed. Instead, stay relaxed and in the moment. As soon as the stimulation gets too intense, back off and relax. This will help you manage your arousal better. Re-Position Your Mind Mind re-positioning refers to adjusting your perspectives about premature ejaculation. For example, instead of thinking about PE as a problem, why not think of it as an opportunity? Often times, premature ejaculation is the result of being too preoccupied with your own shortcomings, especially with regards to your sexual performance. It can lead to a “vicious cycle” spiraling out of control. Instead of looking at premature ejaculation as a curse, see it that you are blessed with a responsive sexual system… something that men with erectile dysfunction would die to have! 51

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Table of Contents Chapter 1- Introduction To Sexual Seduction ................................................................ 4 Chapter 2- How To Become A Chick Magnet ................................................................. 6 Chapter 3- Using Psychology To Attract ....................................................................... 11 Chapter 4- Seduction Situations.................................................................................... 17 Chapter 5- Sense Of Humor Is Important .................................................................... 20 Chapter 6- Secrets To Make Her Want You ................................................................. 23 Chapter 7- How Do Women Think? ............................................................................. 26 Chapter 8- Mystery Method Of Seduction ................................................................... 28 Chapter 9- Sun Signs And Seduction ........................................................................... 32 Chapter 10- Seduction Myths ........................................................................................37 Chapter 11- Conclusion .................................................................................................. 41

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Chapter 1 - Introduction to Sexual Seduction Seduction is an art where a man knowingly lures or attracts a woman. Sure there can be other combinations or it could be the other way around, but this book was written for straight guys. Seduction is the procedure through which you can tempt or charm a lady to make her fall for you. Seduction is very often referred to as the application of sexual desire with the main objective to charm or attract a lady to do what the seducer wants her to do. As I am sure you know, it is not necessary for men to be in love with the women in order to seduce them. Sexual attractiveness is the main factor which influences a man to seduce a woman. A person can make use of different types of techniques to seduce the women that they are attracted to. Of course, the techniques used will be dependent on the traits of the woman and the situation that you are in. There are quite a number of social behavior theorists who are of the opinion that seduction is a unique type of persuasion. Some even describe seduction as a power that depends on psychological mastery instead of intellectual appeals, money or fame. If you want to sleep with someone then you need to produce a situation where the woman that you are attracted to, will be attracted in return – attracted so strongly that she will act on her feelings right now, tonight. What should you do to produce this situation? You need to seduce the woman so that she will not be able to help herself but fall in lust with you. The main thing you need to remember about seduction is that you have to enhance your sexual attractiveness. If a woman does not find you sexually attractive then there is no way she is going to sleep with you. But that does not mean you have to be great looking. Unlike most men, women are not attracted so much by looks as by other factors. You should know that the ladies are quite picky about the men that they sleep with. Other things being equal, it is usually harder for a man to seduce a woman than it is for a woman to seduce a man. As a result, men need more tips and advice on seduction as compared to women. In general, women are different than men, they think differently and they have different values. Most men do not know 4

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the right way to hold a conversation with women. Even if they do, they may not know what they should and should not talk about with a woman that they want to seduce. The seduction techniques for different women are different. One technique may work for a particular woman but it may not work for another woman. To know which techniques to use, you should first find out about the personality of the lady and her way of thinking. To make her attracted to you, you need to make yourself attractive to her first. In this e-book, you are going to learn about the ways and techniques that you can use to seduce women. In addition, you will also find out what you should and should not do when you are right there with the lady.

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Chapter 2 - How To Become A Chick Magnet Have you spent quite some time in your life trying to think of a way to attract women to you? If you have learnt anything about women from your endeavors then you can call yourself a psychologist now. There is a branch of study that is dedicated to discovering or finding out the type of men that most women opt for. In general the people who undertake these studies do not take into account the materialistic factors, such as money, that may attract women to men. The study is about psychology and how it affects seduction. In recent research from Japan and Britain, it was found that the factors that influence seduction are not just how a guy smells or looks. The study reported that women are aware of the fact that good-looking guys may not be a good choice for a long-term relationship, which is what most women are looking for, deep down. They consider that handsome men are unreliable, more likely to be unfaithful and only good for short-term relationships. In addition, this study reported that given a free choice, the type of man a woman opts for depends on her point in the menstrual cycle. It found that during the period of ovulation, women preferred fit, macho type men (who are likely to make strong, healthy babies) and for the rest of the days, they opted for less macho men who might be thought to make better long term partners. So, if you‟re not a macho type of guy, you have a great chance of getting any girl, 75% of the time. However, it is also thought that a woman‟s cycle makes her more attractive to men at the time of ovulation. So there is a danger that if you always go for the girls who attract you the most at a subconscious level, you will pick out the girls who are ovulating and are not going to pick you tonight. Instead, you need to be aware of who is looking at you a lot, and choose those girls right now. You can hugely boost your „score‟ by always picking girls who are attracted to you. You just have to take a few simple steps to increase their numbers and, most importantly, have the confidence to believe that in any room, there will be some 6

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women who are attracted to you – no matter what you look like. Once you have that confidence and belief, it is just a matter of finding them. Besides, if you want to attract and make women fall for you then you should ooze confidence and appear to be cool – not in the sense of following fashion, but emotionally. Be happy, content to be who you are and where you are right now, be friendly to both men and women, and do not react with anger or sulks to setbacks but accept life as it comes. Think about the guys you know. Do you know some guys who are like that, always happy, laid back and optimistic? Do they have trouble getting girls? I bet they don‟t. So if you are out with a woman or just cruising in a nightclub or at a party, do not show your temper. This will destroy the „top guy‟ image that you have created for yourself. For this reason it is important not to drink too much when you are „hunting‟. Sure you can have a drink or two, but don‟t get drunk. Keep that for the times when you‟re watching the game with the boys. A lot of guys mix up the two and have nights out with the guys where they drink a lot, go to a club and try to pick up girls. That‟s a big mistake. Keep your drinking nights separate from your picking up nights. Attracting and seducing women is not a difficult job at all if you know what you are doing. Everything depends on how you think and what you think. You need to set your unconscious mind so that it follows whatever instructions you give it. When you tell your unconscious mind that you are the type of guy that women go crazy over then you will find that you are filled with confidence and sex appeal. When you do this, you will subconsciously believe that you are a chick magnet and there is nothing that can stop the women from getting attracted to you.

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Our mind plays a very important role in the seduction process. Now let us see how it works. First, tell yourself that you have the power and confidence to get any girl. Say this to yourself every time you look in a mirror, at least three times a day. Tell yourself that you are a very confident person with massive sex appeal. Say it out loud and smile while you say it. Don‟t skip this step. These kind of positive affirmations are something many people skip because they feel stupid, but that stupid feeling is exactly what you need to get rid of. Affirmations work. You will be a chick magnet as soon as women believe that you already are a chick magnet. Women will believe that you already are a chick magnet as soon as you believe it yourself. It‟s that simple. Once you believe this 100%, you will find that women will not be able to take their hands off you. There is a particular unconscious region in our brain that functions 24/7 forming our beliefs about ourselves from the thoughts that we have. You may be surprised to know that our beliefs about ourselves do not depend on what happens to us – they depend on the thoughts we have about what happens to us, our own reaction to the events of our lives. You do not need to change any of the circumstances of your life to change yourself into this happy, laid back guy. You just need to think positively (look for the positive in the circumstances and events of your life) and take charge of your life by never blaming other people for things that happen to you. This doesn‟t mean you start blaming yourself either – but just accept what happens, if is something you cannot change. For example imagine your phone is stolen in the street. You can take action (chase after the guy, or call the police) but let‟s say your action does not succeed and you lose the phone. You might get real angry and curse the ******* who stole 8

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your phone with everyone you know. You might curse the friend who „made you‟ walk up that street. Both of these are ways of blaming others for what has happened to you. Or, you might curse yourself for having your phone in your hand in the street or being the type of guy that these things always happen to – these are ways of blaming yourself. The confident guy would say, “I don‟t have my phone – that‟s a bummer. Oh well, I guess now I have to get that new model that I wanted.” Or, “Maybe this is life‟s way of telling me I need to cut back on pizzas, because that‟s what I‟m going to have to do in order to afford a new phone.” The guy who thinks this way is the type of guy that women adore. So, all you have to do to become the type of guy that women adore, is change your mind. Confidence plays a huge role in the seduction process. A man is confident if he is successful and happy in life. When men have these two important aspects of life, they do not feel the need of women. Such men do not care about rejection because they know that when one door closes, another opens. It is because of their happiness and success that they are able to handle rejection well. In very simple words, we can say that a man is considered as a chick magnet if he is both successful and happy in life. How many guys do you know who are unhappy or unsuccessful but can attract women? None! Women do not like men who are unsuccessful in life. They would most definitely not be drawn toward those men who are unhappy with their lives. Now the question is: how can you become happy and successful in life?

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True, it is not easy to achieve success and happiness but remember that both of these things are relative. Happiness is a feeling that everybody has from time to time and it is actually very simple to find things to be happy about in almost any situation, if that‟s what you are looking for. While you can also define your own success (you can set your own goals, and if you meet them, you are successful) success is a little different because other people‟s definition of it will come into play. However, there are certain factors that will make you appear to be successful on your own terms so that you can be a true chick magnet. These things are as follows:

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Be generous. Women do not like men who are stingy.

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Chapter 3 - Using Psychology To Attract Attraction is simply a positive feeling that one person has for another. It can be in the form of admiration, love, friendship or lust. The factors that influence one person to be attracted to another are similarity, physical attractiveness, proximity and reciprocity. Similarity This means having things in common. You can boost this by picking up on things she says and forming connections. For example, if she says she likes a certain film and you like it too, say so, because that‟s a similarity that will increase your attractiveness. Don‟t make the mistake of telling lies here because she will subconsciously pick them up and they will have the opposite effect. If you didn‟t like the film, choose something else to form your similarity. Maybe you like one of the actors who was in it. With practice you can become very skilled at picking out and focusing on these similarities. Physical attractiveness Although you cannot control what type of guy a particular woman finds attractive, you can make the most of yourself. Be clean, spend some time and money on your haircut, wear the kind of clothes that girls find attractive. Being in good health is attractive but don‟t worry too much if you are a little overweight, if you are short, stuff like that. Some girls like these things, and many others will not care if you make the most of what you have.

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Proximity Within reason, a girl will be attracted to someone who is close by, or someone that she sees often. If you see the same girl on your way to work each day and you notice her looking at you, you have a great chance with her. In a club, moving around the room will help you get closer to more girls than if you stay in one place. When she has had a chance to notice you, get talking to her. Reciprocity This simply means that we tend to like the people who like us. This is also true of attraction. Don‟t be afraid to show that you are attracted to a girl, because it will increase her interest in you. Of course, don‟t pursue someone who has shown that she is definitely not interested. To have a chance with her, accept her „no‟ right away, stop focusing on her and go talk to someone else, but try again another day. These are the basics of the psychological factor in attraction. There is another principle of psychology that you should know about and can use to your advantage. This is the classification of personalities. You can learn what to talk about and how to behave with women who have different personality types. Personality can be categorized into three types: 1. Kinesthetic – focusing on touch. These women are likely to use a lot of touch-related words in their speech. This includes the word „feel‟. So somebody who says „it feels like‟ a lot could be a kinesthetic personality. These women will react well to being touched in a friendly way, sooner than others. You can give her a squeeze or touch her arm – she will enjoy that and may respond by returning your touch. 12

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2. Visual – focusing on sight. These people will say things like „it looks like‟ and „I see what you mean‟. You will do well with these women by focusing on the visual. Admire their clothing and jewelry, or point out things you like about the appearance and décor of the place that you are in. She will feel that you are a like mind if you do this. 3. Auditory – focusing on sound and hearing. These people will say „I hear you‟ and „did you hear about …‟. To start a conversation with these women, ask what type of music they like, or say they have a beautiful voice or a lovely laugh. You can also do well with them if you are able to pick up on nuances of tone of voice – which you will do naturally if you are an auditory personality yourself. You will have a huge advantage over other guys if you can pick up on these personality types and respond in the right way to them. For example, if you ask a visual type woman what music she likes, you will probably leave her cold. But ask her about film and you could have a great conversation that leads to the bedroom. In order to pick up what personality type a woman is within a few minutes or seconds of meeting her, you will need some practice. Start by noticing the forms of speech that your friends use, and classifying them. Then consider yourself. You will naturally get on fine with women who are the same personality type as you, so it is important to know what that is. Record a casual conversation that you are having and analyse it, or consider other factors – do you enjoy stroking a cat, you do love art, do you love music. Do not decide too quickly because you probably have preconceived ideas about what you would like to be, that may not be true. Observe yourself as you have been observing your friends. 13

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You will probably find that you are the same type as many of your friends, so the next step will be to get practiced at making friendly conversation with people of other types. You need to learn to converse with them as if you were their type, so that they are more attracted to you. You will probably find these people in your place of work and in other situations where people are more randomly grouped. It will not come naturally to you to say „I feel …‟ or „I see what you mean‟ or „I hear you‟ if those words do not fit your personality type. You will be uncomfortable at first, so it is very important practice with casual acquaintances before you start using this technique on attractive women. After a while you may find that you are suddenly making friends with unexpected people, you are more popular at work than you ever dreamed possible, and the woman in the grocery store is crazy about you – then you know it‟s working, and you can get out there and start using the technique for real. When you talk with a girl in the way she prefers then you will find her opening up to you. It won‟t be long before she becomes physically attracted to you. The reason for the rapid attraction lies in the fact that the woman you are with starts to picture you as her soul mate subconsciously. When she begins to see you as her soul mate, you will no longer be a stranger to her. She feels that she has known you all her life and that you can understand her totally. Avoid these psychological mistakes Some men have the tendency to make mistakes in the psychology of seduction. Let us look at some of the common MISTAKES which most men make and what you should do to avoid them: 1. Trying to act as an extremely nice guy: women do not get physically attracted to you because you are nice. They get attracted to you because you are confident, optimistic and successful. Be clear about the difference between being happy and being nice. 14

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2. Trying to argue a woman into liking you: if a woman is not interested in you then do not use words to try to persuade her to like you. It does not happen and no matter what you say or do, it most definitely will not make a woman fall for you. It is simply not possible for you to persuade a woman to become attracted to you. If she is not interested then the only way you can change that is to genuinely forget her and get lots of other women interested in you. When you do that, she may change her mind, but only when you no longer care either way. So move on. 3. Waiting for her permission or approval: many men wait for approval or ask for a woman‟s permission before they do certain things. For example, they may ask if they can kiss her, insist that she chooses where to go on a date rather than making a suggestion, or even wait for women to approach them in a bar. They think that by doing what the woman wants them to do, they can win her over. In fact she will see this as a sign that the man lacks confidence. Most women do not find it attractive at all to be asked for their permission all the time. Many will even be irritated by it. However, this does not mean that you have to ill-treat her. Just be normal. If it feels like the right moment to kiss her, then kiss her. Be confident: don‟t be afraid of rejection. In the unlikely event that she doesn‟t like it that you kissed her, apologize and wait a while before trying again. It‟s no big deal. 4. Trying to purchase her affection: if you think that you can win over her by taking her out to dinner or showering her with expensive gifts then you are very wrong. In the worst case, if you make her feel that she owes you sex because you bought her dinner, you are treating her like a cheap prostitute. If you are simply trying to impress her, then it doesn‟t matter what something cost. She will love receiving your gifts if she likes you, regardless of their value, just because they are a sign of your affection. But a woman who is not attracted to you will not change just because of an expensive gift. 15

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5. Telling her your feelings too soon: if you claim to be in love with a woman at first sight, or say anything that suggests that, she will probably run a mile. She will either think you shallow, or she will think you are lying to get into her pants. It is well known belief found in all women‟s magazines that most guys‟ affections change pretty fast and a guy who falls in love easily, falls out of it easily too. Never express your feelings in the beginning of the relationship. 6. Believing that women only fall for looks: we covered this already, but it is worth repeating. If you think you need plastic surgery to make women fall for you then you couldn‟t be more wrong. Don‟t waste your money – a new nose will not get you one extra date. The way that you communicate with her and behave toward her is way more important. By using these two elements, you can make yourself sexually attractive to women, whatever you look like. 7. Being inflexible: some guys have a set pickup line and procedure that they use in all circumstances, on the grounds that it worked for them once. If you do this you may have a success now and then but you will fail with most women because you cannot adapt your technique to the individual woman and the circumstances. Learn to vary your technique according to her personality type and the information that she gives you in conversation, and your success rate will increase.

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Chapter 4 - Seduction Situations No matter how „modern‟ we have become, it is still better for men to approach women instead of the other way round. Dating techniques and society may have changed but most modern women still prefer to be pursued. If you want to learn the art of seduction then you should be able to hold romantic conversations, have a good command of language, look confident and know the right way to flirt. When you talk with a woman, you will get some idea about her personality and it is through this idea that you can find out the speed at which you should move forward with her. Always focus your attention on the woman that you are with. Look at her body language. Is it open, or has she closed herself off from you with folded arms or crossed legs? Is her body turned toward you or away? Is she copying your posture or doing something different? You will know from her body language whether the lady in question is interested in you. When you first meet a woman that you are attracted to, it can give rise to three situations: 1. You only have few minutes to attract and seduce her. Let us assume that you have met this really attractive woman in a coffee shop and you want to attract her. In such a situation, you should say or act in a certain way that would draw her toward you. If you are unable to do that then she would be gone from your life forever. The most important thing to do in this situation is to develop a bond with her and make yourself trustworthy so that she can trust you. Women would never go for men whom they don‟t trust so it is necessary to make yourself trustworthy. Do this quickly by creating a connection between you – see the section on similarity in the previous chapter. Since you don‟t have much time here, you need to undertake rapid actions such as asking her out for a date at that moment or asking her for her email address or phone number.

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2. You have a few hours to attract and seduce her. This might be at a dinner party or a one-day event, or when you meet a woman on a plane. This situation is better than situation one because here you at least have a few hours which you can use to draw her toward you. Still, you need to win her over rapidly. See the stages of seduction in the next section and move through them as quickly as you can. Make real good use of your time. Talk to her and attract her toward you by using your body language and conversation skill. 3. You have a few days or weeks to attract and seduce her. If you are in this situation then you can take your time to woo her and then seduce her. Women you work with or neighbors would fall into this category but a lot of guys prefer not to seduce those women because of the complications that can mess up that area of your life afterward. So a better example of this situation would be a woman who works in a local store, or someone you meet on vacation or at a 3-day conference. You will meet her on several different occasions and you can move through the different stages over a longer period of time. Now that you know the different situations of seduction, you should be aware of the different stages of creating a bond with her. Stage 1: Overcome the awkwardness by indulging in light and informal conversation so that the two of you can understand each other. Create a connection. Stage 2: Make yourself trustworthy and make her feel she knows you pretty well. This is not about factual knowledge, but giving her a sense that she is seeing the real you and can trust you to act in certain ways. Stage 3: Have her develop sensual or romantic feelings for you. Flirt.

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Stage 4: Introduce physical touch in the relationship – not just friendly touching which you may have done already if she is a touch-centered person, but the kind of touching that you would only do with a woman you wanted to seduce: holding hands, kissing, arms around her, close dancing. Stage 5: Move to intimate touch, foreplay and sex. This usually requires moving to another location and you should be prepared to go through all of the earlier stages over again in the new location, right from stage one, if necessary – though it should be much quicker this time around. You should always know what stage you are at with any individual woman. As soon as one stage is successfully completed, it is time to move on to the next. You must become skilled at knowing the right time to switch to the next stage. If you move too fast, she will be scared and reject you. If you hesitate, she will think you are not very attracted to her. With practice you will learn the skill of picking the right moment for the next move. You must, however, keep the different stages in mind even in your first attempts, so that you can learn from any mistakes. A word about close dancing. In some situations, like a night club or party, it is possible to do this too soon. You can often start to dance next to a girl, make eye contact, and then ask her for a close dance before she really feels she knows you at all. This is unwise. Unless you are very lucky, she will probably feel a little uncomfortable about having reached this stage too fast and you will have to work much harder at building trust later. You may end up in the real bad situation of spending all evening on one girl, thinking you are doing great, and then have her turn you down at the end of the night because you didn‟t build enough trust earlier. So rather than ask her for a close dance at that early stage, talk to her on the dance floor or if the music is too loud for that, ask if you can buy her a drink. Even if she says no it‟s better to have her turn you down now when you can move on to someone else, than have her dance with you now but disappear when the club closes. 19

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Chapter 5 - Sense Of Humor Is Important It has been found that women regard sense of humor as the most attractive feature in men. Everyone wants to hang out with someone who has an excellent sense of humor. There isn‟t a single woman who does not look for sense of humor in men. It has also been found that if you are able to make women laugh then you can make them do almost anything. So if you are attracted to a woman and would like to seduce her then do what you can to develop a great sense of humor. Make her laugh so that she can have a great time with you. If you seem happy and relaxed this will be much easier. If you look too serious then she will not be comfortable with you. In order to make her feel comfortable, show her that you are confident and engage in light and funny conversations. When you meet a lady for the first time, there will always be some reservation between the two of you because you do not know each other well. In order to break the ice, a sense of humor is essential. You will find that those guys who can make people laugh easily are able to attract more women. The reason is simply that people feel happy when they are laughing. If a woman has to choose between a guy who can make her laugh and a guy who is serious all the time, whom do you think she will choose? Of course, the guy who can make her laugh! Just keep in mind the following points when you consider how to be an amusing guy. First, do not be funny in a way that puts you down. Remember you are a confident guy, and confident guys do not put themselves down. Your jokes and humor should make her laugh at life and feel happy. Don‟t make fun of her by teasing her about her looks or anything else. Women like men who are clever and understand the world. Guys who can be funny without putting people down usually come across this way. I am not trying

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to say that you have to be a comedian to show your intelligence. Just show her your sense of humor so that it will provide a positive view of your character to her. What do you think a woman is looking for ultimately? She is looking for a guy who has the ability to put a smile on her face – someone who can help her to enjoy her life. You can do this by being funny, and you can do it by having a positive view on the world that helps you spread happiness to those around you. If she tells you about problems that she has, listen sympathetically but do not get involved in discussions of who is to blame for her problems or encourage her to feel angry or depressed. You have a better chance with her if you can help her to forget about the pressure that she may have in life. Developing a good sense of humor requires time and practice. Moreover, you cannot be funny at all times. There are times when you will have to be serious in front of her. Always remember that if you try to act funny where sense of humor is unwanted then you might as well bid goodbye to the woman forever. It is best not to joke in the bedroom, it breaks the intensity of the mood. Humor is mainly for the first three stages of the seduction process. Everybody‟s sense of humor is different and what one woman finds funny may not be funny to other women. So again, you will have a big advantage if you can notice the kinds of things that she finds funny and take your conversation in that direction. Most people think that they have an excellent sense of humor but it doesn‟t mean that everyone can tell a joke. If you are not a great joke-teller you can still be funny in other ways. Notice when you make your friends laugh, what you said or did to cause that. You were probably very relaxed at the time. There are a few people who can be funny when they are nervous but most of us will be more amusing when we are relaxed. That‟s another reason to work on feeling confident.

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There is no doubt that your seduction technique can improve enormously if you have an excellent sense of humor. Women seem to find funny guys irresistible.

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Chapter 6 - Secrets To Make Her Want You Okay, so there is a woman whom you really like and you would love to sleep with her. Let‟s recap. Check out the tips given below which can help you to seduce her: 1.

Do not consider yourself as unattractive. If you feel that you are not attractive then there is no way in which you can make the woman find you attractive. This type of thinking will influence your body language and the way you think. Take some care over your appearance so that you feel at your best, and start telling yourself that you are attractive.

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Do not bore her. There are times when men tend to bore women without even realizing that they are doing that. Never talk about your work, sports or weather when you are with a lady, unless you know that she is truly interested in the subject. She may listen for hours and even say she is interested just to be polite. Then she will go home without agreeing to a second date, and you are left wondering why. The reason is, you fell for her pretence of interest, and ended up boring her. If she is genuinely interested in a subject she will not just ask questions and listen, she will have a lot to say about it. For example: if she asks you which team you think will win the Super Bowl, she is pretending to be interested. If she tells you which team she thinks will win, and why, then okay, she may be interested in football.

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Do not talk too much. If you talk constantly, you can make the lady turn her back on you. She will either think that you are babbling because of nervousness, or if not, she will find you boring. Try to get her talking too. Even with the shyest woman you can do this if you help her to feel relaxed and find out what she is really interested in.

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you have to keep asking her questions after questions. Asking a few questions can make a conversation interesting but asking too many questions will make the lady want to run away from you. Instead of interrogating her, pick up on hints in what she says, that show you when she has some real feeling about something. A good way to do this is to repeat something she has said back to her in a questioning tone of voice. This will encourage her to say more but it comes across as interest rather than another question. For example: You: “What kind of movies do you like?” Her: “Oh, I guess … comedies mainly.” You: “Comedies?” Her: “Yes, like ... Meet The Parents.” If you know that movie you now have quite a lot to talk about. You can discuss that movie and the follow-up and think of some similar ones that she probably likes too. Remember, you are not just chatting to pass the time. You are building trust by creating connections and letting her see similarities, things that the two of you share. With this technique you must only repeat actual words that she said. If you say “What kind of comedies?” then that is another question and she may feel she is being interrogated. 5.

Avoid questions that can have Yes or No as the answer, e.g. “Do you like movies?” This can kill the conversation.

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Do not treat a woman as a prize. A woman does not like the idea of being a prize or a possession. She will not be attracted to you if she thinks you are showing off that you are with her, or if she suspects that you will boast about your conquest of her to your friends.

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she is interested in you. If she is then you can carry out your seduction plan and if she isn‟t then there are a lot of other fishes in the sea. 8.

Flirting is the answer. How will a woman know that you are interested in her if you do not give her a sign? When you flirt with her, you indirectly let her know about your intention.

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Be confident. Women simply cannot resist men who are confident. Do not be afraid to approach a woman because of fear of rejection. There are always risks in life and if you do not take the risk then you cannot reap the benefits.

10. Make the lady feel good. If you want to attract and seduce a lady then it is very important to make her feel good in your company. If she feels happy in your company then it will not take a long time to attract her and then seduce her.

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Chapter 7 - How Do Women Think? Have you ever wondered what goes on inside the minds of women? Clearly, we can never know for sure how somebody else thinks, and that seems even more true with people of the opposite sex. However, there are certain ways in which most all women think and in this chapter we are going to learn about them. When a woman sees an extremely attractive man, or a man that she finds extremely attractive (and you might be surprised who they are) her first thought would be „He is so hot‟. That‟s right. Believe it. If you thought that only men could think that way then you do not know a lot. However, seeing a hot and attractive guy does not mean that the woman will approach him. What she will do is look at him a lot, and watch him – his body language, his style, what he is doing and who he is with. If she is really interested in the guy then you will find that she cannot keep her eyes off him. If the guy in question is also interested then he will do the approaching. So the next time you find a woman staring at you, approach her because she will not approach you first. Never encourage a woman to think that you are a „nice guy‟ if you are attracted to her. Many guys do this because it makes the initial stages of the process easier – she is happy to talk with you, for example, and it is easy to build up trust. But you will probably find she just laughs at you when you try to move on to flirting and touching. She is willing to be your friend but nothing more than a friend. She will probably even go out with you in a group, but not one on one, because she is hoping you will introduce her to other, „hotter‟ guys. However, this does not mean that you have to be a bad guy, be aggressive or nasty to her, or treat her badly. Just be clear in your mind that you can have as many women as you want, and she will pick that up, and she will sit up and take notice. The mind of a woman is such that they are attracted to guys whom they find mysterious. Women like to unfold mysteries and they simply cannot resist the challenge to know more about mysterious men. So don‟t answer all of her 26

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questions, and don‟t give her too much information. You don‟t want to satisfy her – at least, not by talking. When it comes to information about yourself, always leave her wanting more. If a woman fancies you then you will know it. Like I mentioned earlier, she is attracted to you if she cannot take her eyes off you. So if you just met a woman and you find her eyes wandering away when you are talking, then that is a bad sign. It probably means that she is not interested and is looking around for someone she likes more. Make yourself more interesting by talking to another girl instead. You may end up having the choice between the two of them. Women are very keen creatures who simply love to notice a lot of things. They are very interested in other people and in all kinds of relationships. If you are on a date in a restaurant with her and she is looking around the room, don‟t worry. In that situation she is probably just wanting to see what kind of place she is in and who else is there, so that she can tell her friends tomorrow. Stop talking and let her look. As soon as you are quiet, she will want to know why, and that will get her interested in you again.

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Chapter 8 - Mystery Method Of Seduction The „mystery method‟ of seduction is a step-by-step method which is very simple to learn once you understand the principles of it. The mystery method considers how men and women choose partners on the basis of their perceived value to help them either survive or reproduce. According to the mystery method, men are mainly looking for replication value: that is, women who will help them reproduce. This means someone young but fully developed physically, with wide hips for bearing his children safely, and a nurturing type of personality that will mean she will care for the children well. Ideally, he wants to impregnate as many of these women as possible. Women, on the other hand, are mainly looking for survival value: that is, a man who will ensure that the woman and her children survive. He needs to be strong and healthy, clever and skilful at finding food and shelter (a good provider), and able and willing to fight to protect his family. He should be someone who is prepared to stick around to see her through the times when she cannot provide for herself and her babies. There is no particular value to her in having a lot of different partners, because she can only give birth to a certain number of children. However, she will want to find the highest value partner that she can, and may abandon a partner for one with higher value. Although this is a very simplistic, biological view, when you look at it this way you can immediately see why women are not as concerned about looks as you probably thought. Your appearance is not nearly so important to her, as hers is to you. She is more concerned about other factors, including earning power and your personality. The mystery method states that individuals have a powerful emotional reaction to individuals with higher value. This is the reason why men have a powerful reaction to extremely attractive women. It is because of this reaction that men undergo an adrenaline rush and talk about attractive women „driving them wild‟. 28

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A woman who is extremely attractive would create such type of reaction in most men. But she does not want a lot of different men who are temporarily driven wild by her looks. She has other values. So according to the mystery method the woman would subconsciously find a man who seems emotionally unresponsive to her, of higher value. As a result, she will be drawn toward him. According to this method, you should never let her know that she drives you wild. Basically, there are three elements or components in the mystery method of seduction and they are as follows: 1. Attract. 2. Comfort. 3. Seduce. Each of these elements is categorized into three phases. Let us look at the three phases of each stage of this method: 

A1 or Attract 1: In this phase, you need to start a conversation with the woman or induce her to start one. Conversation is extremely important and you should not take the next step unless you have engaged in a good conversation. The A1 stage is extremely significant even though it does not last for a long time. If you see an extremely attractive woman that you like, proceed toward her direction to approach her. It is always recommended that you should not walk to her from the back nor should you walk straight in to her direction. You can walk at a 45-60 degree angle. Use dismissive body language to start a conversation. Do not compliment or praise her at this stage. Use short but unique lines to impress her (seem different from the rest) instead of babbling a long story or telling her that you like her dress.

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A2 or Attract 2: Many men are of the opinion that getting the women attracted to them is not simple. This is incorrect thinking because you can attract women very easily. You simply have to make use of certain techniques like showing higher value, alpha male traits, etc. Most of the time, this stage takes about two to ten minutes. However, it may take up to twenty minutes with some women. Always remember that you should not praise her on her looks at this stage. When she shows an interest in you, step to the next stage.

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A3 or Attract 3: This is a very significant stage. Here you must let the woman know that you are attracted to her but not just because of her appearance. If you let her know that you are interested in her simply because she is beautiful then she will turn her back on you. She will think that you are not as cool as she thought you were. Remember, every guy since she was a teenager has thought she was gorgeous, so what‟s so special about you? Show that you are attracted by her mind, her personality, her opinions.

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Comfort (C1, C2 and C3): Creating a comfortable atmosphere is very important in the seduction process. The majority of women (except for the party girls) will take a minimum of three to ten hours and perhaps more than one meeting to get into the comfort phase. C1 or the „connection‟ phase will occur in the location where you have first attracted the lady. C2 or the „trust‟ stage will take place in a more comfortable location. Lastly, C3 or the „intimacy‟ stage will take place in the place where you plan to seduce her.

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reassurance. S3 is the stage where you actually get into bed with her. Always remember to seduce her in a place where you will not be disturbed. If you are planning to seduce her in your own home then make sure that your place is clean and hygienic. Many women find the idea of a dirty place abhorrent. You may have aroused her but if she finds that your place is dirty and untidy then she may change her mind. I am not saying that your home should be spotless. Just clean enough to make her comfortable.

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Chapter 9 - Sun Signs And Seduction Most guys are skeptical about astrology and if you feel that way then I hear you. However, guys who try this approach do report some success so you may want to incorporate it in your technique, especially if you hit a patch where you seem to be getting nowhere with women. However crazy it may seem, the idea behind astrology is that the position of the earth and other planets at the time we are born exerts a gravitational pull on the earth that affects our personality. The sign that you see in astrological predictions (Aries, Taurus etc) is your sun sign. It‟s not so much about the position of the sun in the sky at the time you were born but more the position of the earth‟s axis in relation to the sun in the month of your birth. The other planets also have a part in astrology and a full astrological chart would also tell you your moon sign and the position of all the other planets in our solar system. Most people only know their sun signs and there are certain personality traits that are associated with each sign. The idea behind this technique is simple. You ask a woman what sign she was born under, then you apply the seduction technique that is designed for that sign. 

Aries- Women born under the sign of Aries prefer their men to be aggressive and bold. If you want to kiss her then do not wait or ask for her approval. Just surprise her by giving her an out-of-the-world and mindblowing kiss. The approach you take should have more force. In addition, the Aries women love it when men pay compliments to them. If you just met an Aries woman for the first time then do not feel that you have to avoid disagreeing with her simply because you want to seduce her. Women born under this sign are drawn to men who disagree with them. They prefer a positive and swift style of seduction.

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under this sign relish and cherish the wooing stage of a relationship. When you are going on a first date with her then make sure that you do not arrive late. Always arrive before her and buy her some gifts or flowers. These women simply love it when men offer them gifts. If you want to seduce a lady born under this sign then use a subtle spray of cologne as Taurus ladies are very much influenced by sensual stimuli. These women also appreciate a great sense of humor. You can attract a woman to you by making her laugh. 

Gemini- Women born under this sign appreciate high intelligence and cleverness in their men. You should also know that Gemini women love to flirt. In fact, there is nothing they like better than to flirt with the opposite sex. You may have to work hard to move her on past the flirting stage to take you more seriously.

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Cancer- Women born under the sign of Cancer are usually soft at heart. If you are attracted to a woman who is born under this sun sign then the best way to seduce her and get her into your bed would be to display the sensitive side of your personality to her. These women love to be taken care of and if you want to seduce a woman of this sun sign then you can think of cooking dinner for her. These women are very romantic and they love romantic surroundings. If you are cooking for her then play soft music in the background and create a romantic atmosphere by using candles. If you want to kiss her then she may like you to ask for her permission first in a sexy low voice. Your style of seduction should be nurturing and soft.

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Leo- It is very important to concentrate on the women of this sun sign if you want to seduce them. They love it when men praise them on they way they dress, behave, eat, talk, etc. In short, they love hearing men singing their praises. These women love to have the best and if you want to make a good impression then treat her the best possible way. During foreplay, make sure that you whisper compliments in her ears. Doing this can make your lovemaking fabulous and out of the world. The women under this sign 33

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love to be seduced. If you can make her fall for you then you can be sure that she will meet you more than half way in the seduction process. 

Virgo- If you are thinking of seducing a woman born under the sign of Virgo then cleanliness would most definitely be an asset. If you are taking her to your place then ensure that your sheets are clean and fresh before you place her on your bed. These women get turned on by seeing smartly dressed men. If you fancy a woman of this sign then you should dress properly when you are meeting her. If you want the seduction to be perfect then you can try taking a shower with her. If you have just met a woman and want to break the ice between the two of you then you can consider asking her for help in finding your mobile phone, proofreading some notes or even organizing your desk. Women of this sun sign like order and they like to help others.

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Libra- Librans are very classy and stylish. If you are interested in seducing a Libran woman then you need to think of romancing her in a very sophisticated manner. These women love beautiful and stylish things. They would expect you to do everything with style. Women born under the sign of Libra love listening to music. So, it would be a great idea to take her to a concert before seducing her. In addition, make sure that you kiss extremely well before you try to seduce a Libran. Librans simply love men who have skills in lovemaking. For Librans, seduction is an inborn talent. They have innate seduction skills and they also expect you to seduce them in the best possible way that would make them screaming for more.

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your moves should be urgent and yet the lovemaking should be without any words. Allow your body to do all the talking. Simply indulge in her and give her the best seduction that one can offer. 

Sagittarius- If you have a great sense of humor than you can very easily seduce and have a Sagittarian woman in your bed. Women born under this sign simply love men who can make them laugh all the time. These women love the idea of great sex in the outdoors. One great idea to seduce her would be to take her on a camping trip. Remember to take a double sleeping bag with you. These women have mischievous and naughty methods of seduction themselves and if you can make her fall for you then you are in for a great roll in the sack.

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Capricorn- These are noble women but do not worry because seducing a woman born under this sun sign will be worth all the effort. You should not hurry. Be patient and use a slow but steady approach when you are seducing her. When you are out on a first date, do not try to have more than a long lasting kiss. Now on your next date, you can caress her neck, shoulders or back. Remember to make use of firm and persistent pressure when you are caressing her. This will turn her on and she will want you to continue what you started. At this time, try to pull back a little because people born under this sign believe that the best things are worth waiting for. Let her know that you want to take it slowly to get to know her better and enjoy every moment. Doing this will impress her tremendously and it will make your seduction all the more exciting.

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Aquarius- On the sexual front, you will discover that it is not very easy to seduce an Aquarian woman. You will need an original approach. Aquarian women love original things and in the matter of seduction, they would also expect something original. Don‟t be afraid to show unusual or even eccentric sides of your personality because she will probably like them. Also, most women born under this sign simply cannot resist challenge, so

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you can use that in your seduction technique. Play hard to get and make yourself be a challenge for her. 

Pisces- Are you attracted to a Piscean woman? If this is the case then you will have to make her feel out of the world if you want to seduce her. Piscean women like calm, peaceful surroundings, soft lighting and comfort. Give her a kiss on the shoulders and lots of tender caresses. This will automatically lead her to your bedroom. She will enjoy slow stroking of her hands and a foot massage. Piscean women are very sensitive and have a soft heart so try to seduce her slowly but skillfully.

If you get very practiced at this, you may start to be able to guess women‟s sun signs before they even tell you. This will really impress them. They will be fascinated to know how you guessed. Don‟t give away any secrets. Let them stay fascinated by you. The other advantage of knowing about astrology is that many women are interested in horoscopes so you can make your conversation more interesting to them by knowing about the traits of different sun signs and compatibility between different sun signs. Also, you don‟t have to worry if she tells you that you‟re Aquarius and she‟s Pisces and the two are not compatible. This leaves most men speechless but you can bring in the influence of the moon and other planets to convince her that you and she are not the usual type of Aquarius and Pisces people.

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Chapter 10 - Seduction Myths Why can some men seduce women so easily, and others seem to have no success at all? The truth is that the men who have no success believe one or other of the prevalent myths about seduction which are completely untrue. Actually, seduction is not at all difficult if you have proper knowledge of the subject. In this chapter we are going to look at some of the myths and negative beliefs that you must get over if you want to have success with women. 1. „I was rejected by X, so I am a failure with women.‟ This is crazy, and yet a lot of men have this belief. Some girl they liked was not attracted to them, so they just gave up. All men are rejected by some women. In fact, the guys who have a lot of success with women also probably have a ton more rejections than you, if they bothered counting them – but they don‟t, because they are too busy looking for the next success. Whatever happened, get over it. Always remember that each and every man has been turned down in his life at least once, unless he never had the courage to try at all. Why should you allow one measly rejection to have a negative impact on your whole life? 2. “I wouldn‟t be able to seduce anyone.” If you think that you don‟t have it in you to seduce a woman then you couldn‟t be more wrong. Each and every one of us has been born with innate seduction techniques. You may not have discovered them as yet but this does not mean that you cannot seduce a woman. How will you know that seduction is not for you if you do not try it? Have more confidence in yourself. Next time you are in a situation where you are meeting women, remind yourself that there is at least one woman in the room who is attracted to you. She will not approach you but she is watching you and if 37

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you look at her, she will make eye contact and then quickly look away before she looks at you again. All you have to do is find that woman, form a connection, and you are on your way. 3. “Women think that I am a jerk.” If this is because you get drunk, play the fool, look like a slob or act aggressive when you are nervous, then all of those are things you can change. Women don‟t think that a guy is a jerk just because he is attracted to her. They like it. But you need to build on that. Read the chapter on the „mystery‟ method of seduction again and concentrate on building your value. Also, ask yourself whether you may be going for the wrong type of woman, or approaching them in the wrong way. Do you go for girls who look „easy‟, when you are really more interested in another type of girl? Try approaching the quieter ones for a change. You may be surprised how differently they react. 4. „She could get any guy – she won‟t choose me.‟ Like most of the other myths, this shows lack of confidence in yourself. Look around you at the couples you see. Aren‟t some of them surprising? Don‟t you see lovely women with guys who seem nothing special at all? The reason for that is that those guys are special to those women. Be special, which you already are if you can believe in yourself, and there is no reason why she would not go for you. 5. „If I sing her praises, I will be able to seduce her.‟ Unfortunately, it is not that simple. The right compliment at the right time can be the thing that makes her fall into your arms, but women are not obsessed with compliments. Use them sparingly. Believe it or not there are a few women who feel insulted when you praise their body, dress or physical appearance. They want you to be interested in them as people, 38

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and they believe that men simply flatter them as an easy way to get into their pants. So the next time you are with a woman that you want to seduce, try not to sing too many praises for you may push her away from you. 6. „It is important for me to be extremely creative and funny.‟ This is not so important that you should try to fake it. Although we talked about originality and humor, these are things that come naturally when you are more confident. If you are trying to be something you are not, a woman will be able to tell. She is extremely good at reading body language. Just relax. If you are not comfortable with cracking jokes then you don‟t have to do that. Instead you can do or talk about something that you are good at. 7. „When I have finished reading this book, I will be an excellent seducer. If not, I need to keep looking for a method that works.‟ Again, it‟s not that simple! Sure, reading about the methods of seduction will help you, but you will need to actually practice the methods, and keep reading this book to remind yourself of the ideas. Practice is the most important part of this. You cannot be an expert in seduction in one or two days. It may take a few weeks or months for you to master it, but you will have successes along the way. In six months from now, or a year, or ten years, do you want to be confident of getting a woman whenever you want, or do you want to be still sitting at home searching the internet for the „magic‟ method that will work for you instantly? If you are turned off by the idea of putting these methods into practice, you are probably afraid of making mistakes. Try to look at things differently. There are no mistakes – there are only learning opportunities. A few rejections now are the best thing that can happen to you. You will learn 39

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more from your rejections than from your successes, so you should be grateful for those women who turn you down – but hide your surprise when one accepts you! 8. „Women love money, and I don‟t have any, so I have no chance with them.‟ This may hold true for a few women but not all women are after you for your money. True gold-diggers are rare. Being a good provider is not only about money. Women want someone who will look out for them and take care of them, and you can do that in other ways than financially. Be confident, be interested in her and attentive to her needs, and you will soon find women who appreciate that so much that they don‟t care whether you have a good job, or any job at all. These are some of the most common myths that prevent most guys from having the success with women that they wish for. If one of these is holding you back, take some time to find a positive affirmation that will help you get past it. Remember that a lot of these beliefs are deeply ingrained in us and it takes more than just reading about them to overcome them permanently. If you don‟t think that any of these is holding you back but something else is, then try watching your reactions when you are among women and see if you can identify what it is. Then take whatever negative belief you may have, and imagine what you would say if your best friend said that to you. How would you help him see that it was not true? Make sure that what you come up with is positive: i.e. not „I‟m not a jerk‟ (that‟s a negative), but „I‟m a confident guy that knows how to please a woman.‟

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Chapter 11 - Conclusion Seduction is something that women as well as men undertake from time to time to get their partners to have sex with them. However, it is the men who have to seduce the women most of the time. Don‟t assume that because a woman dresses in a sexy way, she is trying to seduce you. She will still expect you to seduce her. This way she can still feel good about herself and doesn‟t have to feel she is a slut. A successful seducer always leaves the woman with the impression that she made the right decision when she went to bed with him. An awesome touch is to send her flowers the next day, with a card that says „Thank you for a wonderful evening‟. It sounds so corny but she will adore it, and most guys don‟t bother. Sure you probably don‟t want to see her again but it is only polite to say thank you. It makes it way easier for her to accept that you never call her again, and makes sure that in spite of this, she only has good things to say about you to her friends. Remember, even in a big city, word gets around. If you seduce a lot of women then over the years, having them all feeling good about it afterward is going to pay you back big time. If you fall in love with a previous conquest‟s best friend five years from now, do you want to have her say, „Oh, so you were the guy who sent Jeannie flowers,‟ or „Oh, so you‟re the guy that Jeannie said was a real rat‟? Confidence and smartness are the two things that women look out for in men. If you are smart as well as confident then you have a high chance of successfully taking her home. The way you act and talk is also very important. Make her feel that you are a gentleman by doing everything that a gentleman would do. However, don‟t be too nice otherwise you may end up being just good friends. Act cool and don‟t agree to all her requests. Ignore some of her questions, to pique her interest. Seduction is an art that requires you to be very attentive to circumstances including monitoring many things at the same time. This may seem impossible at 41

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first and that‟s why many guys don‟t have the success that they could have. But really, it‟s just like driving. At first it seems that you will never master all of the things that need to be done at the same time. Don‟t give up. With practice, after a time it is second nature. Now that you have read this book you have a choice. You can go on as you are, fantasizing and wishing, or you can act and make your dreams come true. It‟s very simple. You just do what you did when you learned to drive – start putting the techniques into action, learn from any setbacks, celebrate your successes and move toward the day when the right moves for any situation will come naturally to you and seducing a woman will be something you can do as easily as driving in traffic.

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